You are the ONLY You that will Ever You!

Be Your Quirky Wonderful Self! - AVintageJoy

I recently read THIS POST by CupofJo and it really hit me. I love so many aspects of people and I really want to learn all that I can from other's experiences, but I truly believe the unique aspects of ourselves are the thing that makes us so unique. I know that sounds kinda like a "duh" statement, but remember when you were a kid? Remember all of those unique aspects of yourself being the thing that other kids tried to make you feel bad for?

I've been told things, even in my adult life like "you really shouldn't make so many jokes if you're running a meeting" **I made two jokes in an hour's time**. Those things, if we're not careful change the unique aspects about us that are the reason why we're where we are in the first place. 

Yes, we should always be maturing and growing as a person, but those special aspects of ourselves that others saw and loved, are also the aspects that others will see and want to change. 

I saw a poster that said "You can't make everyone happy, you're not coffee" Preach! I'm not here to try to appease everyone I come in contact with, there are going to be people that we just don't have to be best friends with, and that is ok! We're meant to love people to the best of our ability, but it is also a two way street. If you're going to be friends with someone they have to buy into that as well. 

It can be very easy to start to be someone else's version of you. Don't! Your loud laugh, or quirky jokes, or curly hair, are all meant to be that way on purpose. Be proud of your freckles, don't cover them up! Be yourself, don't spend your time trying to be "the cool kid." What does that even mean anyways, cool is defined by whatever the masses say is cool right now. Remember when Jocks, then Nerds, then Social Media Influencers became cool?

 It changes so much, just focus on being you! You're the best and only you that will ever you. Do yourself the justice of being that! 

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June Goals (10 in 30)

June Goals 2018 (10  in 30) - AVintageJoy

It's around this time of the year that I feel like my brain goes "ahhhhh" because the year is going so quickly and I have so many things I want to accomplish! We all have so many small and big goals that we're working towards every day. It's important to celebrate those. 

1// Purchase my Sugarland Tickets! If you don't know who they are, it's a country music band that I loved when I was younger and then they broke up to have kids....but they're back together now!! And they're coming to my part of the world and I really want to see them! 

2// Find lotion that I love, that's also better for my body than the lotion I'm using now. I never thought I had dry skin, but now I'm realizing I do, and lotion is important. The lotion I want to find though is lotion that has only a few ingredients so that it's better for my skin! Any thoughts?

3// Go to bed earlier. I have to get up so early for work, and yet in my heart I'm a night owl, therefore I tend to only get six hours of sleep a night, and recently those have been restless hours, no bueno.

4// Use my Levenger notebook to its fullest potential. I may even do a post on how great this notebook is. I love it so much! 

5// Learn more about my Lightroom presets. I've always been so intrigued by them and how they work so I finally purchased a set from Peter McKinnon and I love them! But I feel like they need to be tweaked on my pictures because of where I tend to shoot vs. where he tends to shoot. 

6// I want to find two things this month that I can cut out that will help me save more money! Because I feel like it's been so long since I've traveled I've been settling down. Getting use to a place isn't bad, but I don't want all of my money going for that instead of towards a future vacation!! 

7// Keep up with my at home workout routine! I'm starting to craft an at home workout routine that I really enjoy, I just need to keep it up!!

8// Look into options for AC units either in the window or something that I can put in the wall. I just moved and my new place has a window unit, but 20 minutes after I started it up, the cold air just became air *cries*.

9// On that same home remodel path: check to see how much a simple crown molding would be. I had it in my last place and I feel like it gave so much character. I wonder how much it would cost to do that in my place now?

10// See the outdoors! I'm keeping this one from months past because I wasn't very successful! I typically work 10-12 hrs a day, so seeing the sun is something that not only is important for my mental health, but also my physical! Go outdoors people! 

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Five things you can do TODAY to take better care of Yourself

Hi my name is Joy and I'm very bad at taking care of myself! It's true! I have this habit of thinking everything will be fine, and all I need is a little sleep and I'll feel better either mentally or physically.

Hi my name is Joy and I'm very bad at taking care of myself! It's true! I have this habit of thinking everything will be fine, and all I need is a little sleep and I'll feel better either mentally or physically and sometimes that works and other times it doesn't. Through my many failed attempts at making myself feel better, I've learned ways and habits that really do help me take care of myself. 

I never want to get in the "I'll live forever so whatever" type of mentality because we're not promised forever. One out of one people will eventually die, so it's important that we keep that in mind no matter what age we are!! I believe that we're only given this one body, so I want to make sure that I'm taking good care of the resources I've been given, including myself. 

1// Take yourself off of social media. I saw this picture that I'm sure many of us have seen and it's so profound. It's the picture where there's one woman standing actually being in the moment and not trying to "get the shot." I love getting the shot! I'm all about that life, but I'm also about a balanced life. Take a few hours today and put away your phone! Be in the moment. 

2// Find a doctor in your area and make an appointment to go, or call your doctor and set up an appointment for this week. Don't neglect your health because you only have one body, take care of it!

3// Cook a meal, like a proper meal from scratch. Because of my work I tend to live in a very on-the-go food lifestyle, but it's important to take the time to cook a meal at home. It's so much better for your body to eat a home cooked meal! Throw a salad in there, trust me your body will thank you!

4// Read! While you're putting away your social media, pull out a book and stretch your mind. Learn new words from Jane Eyre or Shakespeare, heck he made up his own and now we use those! Get into a different world and allow your mind to set the scene.

5// Have a friend over. Step out of your comfort zone if you're an introvert, or if your an extrovert clean up your place and have a loved one over. Find that person who you don't have to be "on" when you see them, and hang out. We all know the people in our lives that it is so easy to spend time with. Take the time to have them over and, actively listen and get into their world. Interacting in person with people really does help your health. According to multiple studies it also decreases your stress levels, depression, and increases your ability to feel empathy for others. 

Bonus: Write down you're boundaries. If you've just worked a ten hour day and someone asks you if you want to go to dinner, but all you really want to do is go home and sit in silence, it's ok to say no thank you! You can exercise your boundary there and then the next time you will say yes if you feel that will help your day!

Another wonderful reason to  know your boundaries is that it's easy to get frustrated with people who you feel are stepping all over your boundaries, but it's not fair to them to say that if you never told them what those boundaries are. 

Moral of the story: Take a moment today to take a look into your own life and see what you can do to help your own self care.  

Find out more about the benefit of in-person interaction from this article from the nytimes! 

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My Recent Etsy Favorites

Who doesn't love small businesses! Here are a few of my recent favorites on Etsy!

I'm a huge fan of any sort of small business. It's so inspiring to see people trying to do what they love and make it into a sustainable way of living! It's been a few months process of working back in forth and applying and getting rejected, but I finally have a new place I'm moving into in only a few days! I'm so excited to have a new place that I can use to be "that home." You know the one, the one where everyone is welcome, the one that if someone needs to escape for a day they can join for pizza and a movie! Or if they need, they can crash at while they're visiting. 

In that spirit of the unique and small business, I've been "Pinteresting" and "Etsying" everything! Here are a few of my favorites I've found on Etsy. go check them out! 

Kitchen: 

I am probably going to paint either my cabinets or my backsplash white! I also really want an long rug to keep in the kitchen. The below from TURQUALITYRUGS is so beautiful! She's also offering 

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A coffee section in my house is an obvious! I'm looking into signs and this one, from DeannasCraftCottage is on the list! 

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Outdoor: 

I'm going to have a hug patio!! It makes me so happy. I've been on the hunt for a hammock chair. Look at this beauty via hamanica

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All the fairy lights!! I'll have the exact same type of "roof" over my place. Via Dealalley 

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Bedroom: 

Unique shelves are so simple, but such a great addition to your bedroom wall. I don't really put any pictures up in my bedroom normally, so this could be a great addition to the walls without any pictures up! Loopholes. Shelves by infinite abyss 

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I've always been in love with the small details of things! Aren't these perfect for dresser drawers!? Via owlkraft 

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Living Room:

I feel that white curtains bring such scerentity to a living room. They act as a clean slate to the day! I really love these from MagiLinen

I'm in the deciding mode if I want to do a ladder that will mainly be for my blankets or one that I can use a shelves. Look at this beauty though! Via PipeAndWoodDesigns 

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Bathroom:

Above the toilet storage can be such a wonderful addition! Add your body butter, and hand towels without taking up precious storage space on the counter! Look at these beauties from Truedimensiondesigns 

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YAS! With my personality I so much so need reminders to slow down and relax! These are so perfect! Via LittleLadyPrintShop

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10 Ways to Turn Around A "Bad Day"

Not every morning is a magical morning. Here are some tips and tricks to help you when you're starting to have a bad day.

There are some days of the year that you wake up and everything feels like a wonderful hallmark movie. The kind where the light streams perfectly into your bedroom. You wake up to a crisp morning where you have nowhere to be and nothing on the calendar, other than things you want to do.

But there are also mornings where you wake up and you didn't realize, but you are out of coffee filers. You forgot to put your clothes out the night before so now you have five minutes to put together an outfit before going to work. And then, after you're too far to turn around, you realize you forgot the coffee, you had to scrounge together, at your house. 

On those harder mornings here are a few things to help:

1// Remind yourself of the positive. Write on your mirror, or on the back of your door, an encouraging word to read outloud to yourself before you leave the house.

2// Wear your favorite perfume. This is definitely a go to for me! On the mornings where I wake up and I don't really "feel like it," I put on my favorite scent and it reminds me of travel and fun days and I immediately have a little moral boost .

3// Remember that every day is new, today is what you make of it! And if it sucks, there's a new try tomorrow. You can have a bad moment of your day, but that moment doesn't have to define your day! Take a quick lap around the block and clear your head. 

4// Close your eyes and breath slowly three times. Balance out your breathing, its the simple things that help turn your day around. 

5// Drink a glass of water. Sometimes it's just you being dehydrated from the night before that makes you a little more cranky.

6// Give yourself something to look forward to at the end of your work day. You can stop on the way home from work and pick up food for dinner, or go out with a friend for a drink.

7// Go to bed early that night. If you're not having the best day, set yourself up for success tomorrow and get a good night sleep! 

8// Drink a cambucha or probiotic drink. Do something small that's good for your body. Keep your stomach happy!

9// Do something at the end of the day that makes you feel pampered. Do a quick 5 minute face mask, or make yourself a cup of chamomile tea before going to bed. 

10// Do something that switches up the way you think. Two hours before going to bed, put down the social media and pick up a book, or paint something when you get home. When was the last time you painted something? For me, I honestly don't remember. 

What are your tips and tricks? Share them in the comment section, I would love to know how you turn your mind around when you're having a "bad day."

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Nine Ways to Have A Relaxing Weekend

Work and Life can be stressful. It's important that we also take time during the weekend to relax. Here's how...

Monday-Friday you get up, get your life together enough to make it to work on time. Work 8-10hrs, go home, do laundry, make food, try to relax, sleep and then wake up the next day and repeat. Now although not every week day looks like this, more of them do than we would like to admit. Monday-Friday or Wednesday-Tuesday, whatever your work week looks like it's so important to make sure you make time to relax. I like to call it a "Slow Saturday." 

A Slow Saturday doesn't mean that you're doing nothing on Saturday, but it does mean that you're being intentional with your Saturday. Here are a few ideas to make sure you're using your weekend to its greatest advantage.

1// Coffee!! Obviously this was going to be first! This can be what you make of it, whatever makes you feel more relaxed. Maybe you get up 10 minutes early and heat up water to make yourself a french press at home, or maybe you get up slightly early and go to your favorite coffee shop to enjoy your people watching for the day. 

2// Pick out your outfit the night before. This has drastically changed my morning during my work week, and it's just as important for my weekend. There is something stressful about having to get up and decide things right away. Set yourself up for success by picking out what you're going to wear and hang it up in the bathroom the night before.

3// Pamper yourself right away. We all have those face creams or face wash products that we love so much that we don't use them every day. (Please say I'm not alone in this!) On Saturday, break those out. Its such a small way to pamper yourself, but put on your favorite makeup for no major reason at all, just because you want to. 

4// Be a tourist in your city. Look up what's happening this weekend, or maybe visit a place you've already been to but love! I can't wait until its spring/summer in Denver. One of my favorite things to do in the summer is visit the Botanical Gardens. The $12-15 is so worth it for me to enjoy a day walking around in all the flowers. (They also have a brick oven pizza they make, yass)

5// Walk instead of Drive. I've lived in very walkable cities and ones that you really can't walk to anywhere in. Either way, drive if you have to to a more walkable area of your city and take a 20 minute walk during golden hour. Drive to the mountains, or the beach, or to your favorite neighborhood and just walk. You'll be amazed how much more creative and rested you'll feel. 

6// Don't let the weather get you down. If it's sunny it's so easy to have a "good day", but when it's gloomy we have a difficult time. Make a conscious effort to remember that this is your Slow Saturday and rain or shine it's going to be a good day!!

7// Plan something for the evening that you know will give you energy. If you're an extrovert maybe you plan a dinner with friends, or maybe if you're getting burt out by people you plan to go to the movies by yourself and take yourself on a date. 

8// Listen to your favorite five songs. A great way to make sure that your Slow Saturday sets you up for the week is to listen to your favorite songs. Let me explain. During those five songs, this is your moment to clean your home, or do the dishes, or separate your clothes for the laundry. During these five songs you can write down a meal prep list for the grocery store, or make your bed. Five songs, on average, is going to be about fifteen minutes. You'll be amazed what you accomplish in that short time. 

9// Give yourself a reward. That reward could be the movie you watched to be by yourself for a moment and relax, but that reward could also be a glass of wine. Make sure you earn the reward, but celebrate your accomplishments of the day. That accomplishment can even be not checking your emails, if you're a person who is constantly attached to their work phone. Its your Slow Saturday, don't check the phone unless you really have to!

Aren't Slow Saturdays the best! I love having the busy Saturday when you're excited and have a plan and are going on a trip, but isn't it also just so lovely to enjoy where you're at and breathe?!

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Life Lately 2018

Life Lately 2018 - AVintageJoy

Oh 2018 has already been so interesting. I've already been pushed pretty far this year and it's only been two full months. I truly believe this is going to a year of great amounts of growth in my life. I also haven't written 2017 once?! Can you believe that, I think I was just really ready for it to be 2018. 

What I've been learning

  • At Work 

Since January there has been huge amounts of growth of responsiblity at work. I've been focusing on what it means to be a good/fair leader. I want to be a leader that others respect and one that helps them grow and be better at work and in life in general. I've also been trying to define what it looks like to be a responsible leader, and how do you be on top of your game without having to work 12hrs a day, literally! 

  • In Life

I've been focusing more on community and what that means. I wrote a post about a what I do want to focus on this year, generosity. This month I've been diving into what it means to be generous. What it means to be a Proverbs 31 woman, and how that impacts my life and how I interact with people. To be honest, I really haven't read Proverbs 31 too many times because it's always something that is told in church growing up. A girl is told to be a "Proverbs 31 woman". I do firmly believe that, but I also know that so many of the girls I saw with that on their walls were not correctly portraying what that chapter meant. Have you read that chapter of the Bible? That woman is amazing!! She knows what she wants, she is kind, and direct, she has her standards and is doing what she does. Go her!! I do want to be like that. 

  • What's New

My lease is up and I'm in the process of deciding where I should go. It's also hard because I'm not sure if I'm looking for a one bedroom or a two bedroom. I've been so focused on work that I looked up and my lease is already ending next month...oops. I'll have to figure it out soon I guess. 

  • Media

I've been so obsessed with "This is US", all the sadness!! I've also been watching the entire sermon series "Relationship Goals" from Transformation Church. I found it on Youtube. It's such a great representation of what a real conversation about relationships should be. I've also been playing Candy Crush recently, yes I know 2014 is calling, but I feel like it helps my mind escape for a minute and focus on something other than work and spreadsheets and just chill out.

How's your 2018 going? What have you learned this year? How are your goals going?

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