WHY DONE IS BETTER THAN PERFECT

Stop overthinking and get things done! Here's one really good reason why done is better than perfect! #makinggoals #betterthanperfect #dontgiveup

Have you ever started a project and then stopped half way though? I know I have. You start out with such excitement, that child like excitement that nothing can stop you and you’re going to do amazing at whatever you set out to do, and then something changes.

Either something goes wrong, or you break something, or you start to understand why “the path less traveled” is less traveled, and you get discouraged.

Done is better than perfect because in those moments of self doubt you can start to become an unintentional perfectionist.

You give yourself the excuses of why something can’t be finished, and why you're not the most qualified person to do this project, or lead these people. You doubt your abilities and your “voice” in the matter.

However, and this is a big however…what if you just did it!

I mean if Niki can use that slogan, so can you! What if you stopped waiting and just started doing. What if you finished project after project, and just kept doing that? Imagine how many projects you could finish within the next year if you didn’t constantly have to have the project be “perfect” before you presented it.

That’s the real secret, because while you’re out there doing project after project, you’re learning. You’re learning your voice when it comes to that subject, you’re learning what you enjoy about your job, or what career field you want to go into. You’re finishing those books that you never thought you would finish.

Looking back next year at this same time, imagine with me for a moment if you just finished projects!

How amazing would you feel! You would have so many new projects completed, and don’t forget you can always go back and fix mistakes you made in the previous project with the new projects. When you find a subject that you really click with, start doing projects that help you get closer to that “perfection”, but remember that true perfection you’re never going to reach.

That that, digest it, and keep going! “Keep moving forward” as the Robinsons would say!

“Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game” as Hillary Duff would say. Wow, I’m really full of tv quotes today!

Anyways, done is better than perfect, because you’re doing more than most will! You’re finishing projects and books, and ideas you’ve had in your brain. You’re not second guessing yourself on every decision.

Yes, you’ll mess up sometimes doing this, but also who cares! You’re also learning from all of those times you tried and failed! Imagine the scenario of Edison with the lightbulb, he only had to get it right once! He found many many ways not to get it right.

Go and do that too! Try out those projects you’ve been storing in your brain because, by starting those you’re already ahead of the game! When/If you fail, get back up and try again, because done is better than perfect!

7 SELF CARE GIFTS WITH A PURPOSE

December is a notoriously bad time for self care. Give the gift of self care this season with a purpose. 7 gifts that will make a difference in the life if your loved one! Happy gifting! #selfcare #selfcaregiftguide #giftguide

December is notoriously a bad time for self care. There are family members in town that you haven’t seen in a while, there are so many deadlines at work to get caught up on before you have a few days off. You need to makes sure all the food is prepared and the house is clean for that one aunt who will always notice if her present from three years ago isn’t on display. It’s a hard season for self care, but it’s one of the most important because you also have weather chaining and with that comes illness at work. Here are a few ideas for you or a loved one this Holiday season to keep on the self care train! Don’t jump off, end the year strong!

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BAMBOO ADJUSTABLE BATH TRAY

This is the time of year that I’m all about that self care bubble bath or bath salt. It’s cold outside and your tired from running around. You’re looking for the best present for the work party, and you just need to exhale! This does BATH TRAY that for you. Taking a bath clears your mind and allows you to take a moment to relax, don't think about work, just let your mind wonder. It’s also good for your mental health to not always be “on.”

CEDAR AND VANILLA SOY CANDLE

While you’re enjoying your luxurious bath it is important to be relaxed! I also really love coming home and lighting A SCENTED CANDLE. I love either the crackling wick candles or soy candles, if they can be both I’m always in! This one on top of all of that burns for 60hrs before you even need to think about a new candle!! Amazing! And it smells like vanilla, a good choice for a year round candle!



GOOD DAYS START WITH GRATITUDE: A 52 WEEK JOURNAL

Love this idea! 2018 was a year for me where I really tried to focus on being grateful. With everything that happened this year there were definitely ups and downs to me being grateful, but I tried really hard not to lose sight of that goal. I wish I had though of this GRATITUDE JOURNAL. Each week it helps you keep on track with soemtign that you’re grateful for. If you’re grateful, your mind doesn’t have the space to think about other things at the same time! What are you grateful for?

FITBIT CHARGE THREE: A WATCH WITH A SLEEP TRACKER

We all want to be healthier, and happier, but a bad night sleep, for me at least, really will get in the way of that! With the FITBIT 3 you can start to learn about how you sleep and what your sleeping patters look like. Knowing how you sleep and when your rem cycles are is important. Set yourself up for awake you, by sleeping when and how works best for your body!



FRUIT INFUSED WATER BOTTLE

I for one am notoriously bad at drinking water. I know I need to, but I just don’t want to do it. I pretty much have to trick myself into drinking water on a daily basis. I would much much rather drink coffee, but I’m told that woman can not live by coffee alone, although I will continue to try. For those times that I do need to drink water, I really love FRUIT INFUSED IN WATER. I makes it feel like a better drink, because water really just tastes like nothing if you add nothing! Add some strawberries, or cucumbers and lemons and I’ll think about drinking water.

LIGHT THERAPY ENERGY LAMP

Honestly when I’m feeling down, or have to look at a computer screen for countless hours in a day I will take whatever I can get that will help me be able to focus and get done what I need to. I’ve seen this lamp pop up a few times when it comes to items that can help you mentally! We all know different lights effect our brains differently. The light in this ENERGY LAMP can not only help your mood, but it can help keep or reset your circadian rhythm which will help you sleep better.

A PAMPER KIT

If you’re still not 100% sure what to get, give a little of everything. I love doing this when I’m traveling because it can be easily broken down and built back when the time for presents arises! Also, it’s a great gift for the traveler in your life because it’s a bunch of smaller items they can pick and choose to take with them on their next adventure.

I use this LUSH R&B on my hair almost every day! It’s a wonder product for me, gets rid of the friz and has my hair looking healthy and smooth! Add in the LUSH SLEEPY LOTION for a better night’s sleep, a JELLY FACE MASK, some essential COCOA BUTTER LIP MOISTERIZER, and some WICKED DEEP RED NAIL POLISH and you’re ready for a night on the town, or in watching all of the Hallmark Movies you can find!

HAPPY HOLIDAYS AND HAPPY SELF CARE!

Self Care : What do you think?

As the official American Self Care week comes to an end I would really love to start a conversation about what you think about self care. Do you think it’s an important topic to discuss?

As the official American Self Care week comes to an end I would really love to start a conversation in the comments about what you think about self care. Do you think it’s an important topic to discuss? Do you think it’s something that is too over looked? Do you think it’s something that people are spending too much time focusing on?

The definition of Self Care has been something that has been growing this whole year; it’s something I’ve had to learn how to make a priority in my life, literally for my health. If you do self care on a more consistent basis, what have you found as the most challenging aspects, and what have you learned this year?

I would love to know and discuss what areas you find important and what areas you find as more of a “if you can.”

Let’s talk!

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7 Self Care Posts That Could Change Your Life

Make sure that you’re giving your best self during your day, by making sure you’re bringing your best self to your work life and personal life. These are some of my favorite posts how to do that!

I love self care, and I’m so proud that there is actually a week in the year dedicated to talking about self care as a subject. Closing out this work week of self care, I want to pay homage to those posts around the web that I truly love reading.

This year has been such a learning experience for me in that aspect. These posts are great reminders to treat yourself kind. Make sure that you’re giving your best self during your day, by making sure you’re bringing your best self to your work life and personal life. Here are a few helpful posts I’ve read recently!

SEVEN DAYS OF KINDNESS CHALLENGE

Intentional Kindness, YES! Going about your day for seven days and intetionally finding ways to improve someone else’s life. That moment where you know you’ve done the right thing and helped another person out is just as much self care as many other aspects are. Self care also comes when you connect and find something out about someone else that you can help with!

10 WAYS TO RESET YOUR MIND

My two favorites in this post were: asking for help, because that’s always something that I struggle with and its nice to see that I’m not the only one out there still learning this principle, and getting more sleep. I am a crazy coffee lady, and sometimes I drink coffee late at night, which at the very least keeps my mind up. However, there are also days that I drink a cup of hot sleepy time tea and have a wonderful night of deep sleep. I want to do the second of those options more!

25 THINGS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE NUMBER OF LIKES YOU GET ON INSTAGRAM

Love this! What great reminders about what’s more important than getting any “likes”. We definitely should all be more like moms on instagram! They’re the best!

SOOTHING SELF CARE FOR WHEN ANXIETY HITS

I had never had anxiety until about two months ago now, and it is not fun! If you are like me and are lucky enough to not have to suffer consistently with anxiety, thank God! If you do suffer more frequently with anxiety, I really love these tips.

For those of you who have suffered frequently or infrequently, what tends to bring anxiety on for you? What tips have you come up with that help you bring yourself back down?

WHY FORGIVENESS IS REALLY AN ACT OF SELF LOVE

I remember the first time I realized that by letting go of the anger I had for being wronged in a situation I was really letting both of us free. My mind was blown. I had never looked at forgiveness that way before. The Self Care freedom that came with that was so exhilarating. I didn’t have to hold onto hurt or anger. I was going to set both of us free to live our lives!

SELF CARE IS NOT SELFISH

I was obsessed with this post from the first quote. I agree that Self Care doesn’t mean that you’re being selfish. You have to learn how to “unplug” yourself sometimes and rest before you get back to work! We all want to be our best selves in every aspect of our lives, and in order to be your best self, you have to also care about yourself!

SELF-CARE TIPS FROM A SELF-CARE MENTOR

IN LOVE. Again this was one of those posts that I was completely sucked into and couldn't stop reading. I love that It’s an interview with someone who has self care as one of their main focuses, even for their work. These were two of my favorite quotes “Burnout is a real, dangerous thing and so is autopilot” and “you can’t pour from an empty cup.” These remind me so much of my post about having no more pie.

Great Stuff!! What posts do you love and read over and over again that remind you to take care of yourself? Leave a comment with your favorite self care post from this year!

You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending
— C.S. Lewis
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Starting With You: Self Care Ideas

Self Care isn’t about putting yourself above everyone else, but in order for your to give the best of yourself to others, work and your relationships, you have to care about yourself just as much as you would care about someone else.

With this week being National Self Care Week it’s important to take a moment to think about the “why” and the “what” of self care. Self-Care isn’t about putting yourself above everyone else, but in order for your to give the best of yourself to others, work, and your relationships, you have to care about yourself just as much as you would care about someone else.

Imagine it like this. You own a car and you put gas in it, continuing to drive it around town. Eventually the check engine light comes on, but instead of taking that as a warning sign you figure something must just be wrong with the signals in your car so you keep driving. You don’t get the oil changed, you don’t check the fluid levels, you don’t check your tire pressure, you just keep driving. You will literally end up driving your car into the ground because you didn’t care for it enough for it to be capable to care for you.

It’s the same with humans. If you don't take those warning signs you know are your personal warning signs of: working too much, not sleeping enough, not eating correctly, etc., your body is going to break down and make you slow down.

Self-Care, no matter the busyness of life, is a necessity. I firmly believe self-care is in three stages. mental, physical and spiritual. If you only focus on one of those you will cause the three legged stool to fall over. You need to balance out the three evenly in order to have a balanced life.

MENTAL SELF CARE IDEAS

  • Deep clean one room in your home

That feeling when you walk into your space and you know it’s clean is so wonderful. Your mind has more space to be creative or work more effectively if it’s also not worried about having to keep track of where things are or where they need to go.

  • Bake Breakfast

There’s nothing like coffee and a pastry. Morning you will be so excited when they wake up and there is a loaf of banana nut bread, or blueberry muffins to take for the commute to work. You can do this on Sunday night so that for the entire week you don’t even have to think about it. You know that you’re covered for breakfast.

  • Say “No”

Do not feel guilty about this one! It’s actually the opposite. You’re taking care of yourself and paying attention to your body. You know if you’re so tired that you don't really have the energy to go to that party or out to dinner. Listen to your body before it makes you listen. Saying “no” is ok!

PHYSICAL SELF CARE IDEAS

  • Learn one new piece of equipment at the gym

One of the reasons that many don’t go to the gym is because it’s intimidating to look at all of the machines and wonder “what even is that?” Learn one new piece of equipment at the gym so the next time you’re there you already know how to use it!

  • Go outside during golden hour

Go outside and take a walk, don’t go with your cellphone (although this is the best time of day for photography). Go outside just to be outside, see the sunset or watch the sunrise. Take a walk literally around the block to pay attention to the leaves and breath in the cool air.

  • Check to see if you’re due for any doctors appointments

Not everything about self care has to do with bubble baths, although those are wonderful! There are aspects of self care that are important in different ways. Check to see when your last eye appointment, or physical was. Are you due for a new one?

SPIRITUAL SELF CARE IDEAS

  • Take a look inside

When was the last time you had a really hard laugh? What were two things that you did this week that brought you energy? Write down your answers. Knowing those helps guide you towards your larger lifetime goals.

  • What are you listening to?

What’s actually important to you? What to know…check what you’re spending your time on. Are you listening to what the world is telling you is important, or are you sticking with what you know is important. Whose opinion matters more?

  • Realize that it’s ok to practice self-care

I don’t want to start any controversy, but I read an article recently that pretty much bashed self-care for Christians. It was talking about how self-care isn’t of God because you’re not relying on Him, you’re doing other things to function. I personally feel that person had the wrong definition of self-care.

I fully rely on God and I truly believe what He has planned for me will come to pass, and nothing I’m doing when I’m taking care of myself is anti-God. There will always be the potential of the “too much gene” and I do believe you can over self-care, but the actual act of self care isn’t wrong. How can you be your best self for God if you aren’t taking a sabbath and resting. God rested on the 7th day, why would I think I’m better than He is? Why would I feel that I can handle more without asking for help or taking a moment to breathe?

FURTHER READING:

A WEEK OF SELF CARE

7 WAYS TO CHANGE YOUR MINDSET

FIVE THINGS YOU CAN DO TODAY TO TAKE BETTER CARE OF YOURSELF

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7 Ways To Change Your Mindset

What you think is what you will become. That is how powerful your mind is! Improve your mindset in simple ways! - AVintageJoy

What you think is so important because, what you focus on you will become. How powerful is that! The more time you spend focused on your goals the closer you will get to them, and the more time you focus on the waters around the more you will start to sink. 

How beautiful that the mind is that powerful. That if we are focused on the beauty in life and how wonderful it is outside, when the snow falls, you will love winter! And how beautiful is it that our minds are always evolving. What we think today can grow tomorrow. It can grow deeper and more solid and become a belief or it could start to change and alter our views on a subject.

Here are some action items that you can start today to improve how you think.

  1. Talk to yourself don't listen to yourself

  2. Take a walk around the block

  3. It can be a bad moment, but it doesn't have to be a bad day

  4. Pay attention to your self talk

  5. Give to others

  6. Give to yourself

  7. Write it down

1. TALK TO YOURSELF. DON'T LISTEN TO YOURSELF

When I first heard this, it was one of those mind blowing moments. Yes, it may sound like something on instagram that you would scroll past, but it has helped me personally. When we talk to ourselves out loud we end up saying different things than we would if you were just listening to yourself. Those negative thoughts about your own talents or a situation sound wrong when you say them out loud. You also realize that it's not a passing thought, you start to change how you're thinking because you realize what you're thinking.

If you start to feel anxious about life, talking to yourself and telling yourself the accurate information is so much healthier than listening to your self talk when you’re not in the best metal state to be listening to yourself.

Further Reading: The Money Alchemy Blog: What’s Your Self Talk?

2. TAKE A WALK AROUND THE BLOCK

It doesn't matter if you're at home or at work, take a moment to step outside and literally walk around the block. Getting the fresh air, away from any computer or cell phone helps your mind to start to clear. That daydreaming part of yourself slowly starts to emerge, and it's good for your body in general to be out in the sun.

3. IT CAN BE A BAD MOMENT, BUT IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE A BAD DAY

When something just goes wrong it doesn't have to define your entire day. If you break something it doesn't have to now have your entire day be about that one moment where something broke. Taking each moment for what they are helps you to not focus on the same moment when it no longer exists. 

4. PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR SELF TALK

Realizing what you say to others and yourself is half the battle. When you take a step back and realize the amount of grace that you may not be giving to yourself it is such a shame. You are wonderfully created.

There is not another like you that ever was or ever will be, how amazing is that!! The purpose of your life only you can fulfill and that's a wonderful thing! Take a moment to think about that! Your self talk should motivate you to work towards your goals, whatever they may be. You are the only you that will ever you! And in the most wonderful way, be proud of that.

5. GIVE TO OTHERS

Improve your thinking, by not thinking of yourself at all! The next time you're getting a coffee purchase the coffee for the next person in line. When you're at the grocery store, purchase some extra breakfast bars to give to someone in need. This one will be soley based on motive if you succeed. Take yourself out of the equation and do something purely for the benefit of someone else! You will have the wonderful reward of feeling refreshed! 

6. GIVE TO YOURSELF 

Give yourself resources! IF you want to learn about flying a plane, pick up a book! If you want to lear about how to be the best (fill in the blank) reach out to someone you admire that's doing it! Ask your friends to give advice on a step they think you could take to walk in the right direction. If nothing changes, nothing changes! 

This doesn’t have to be a big step, but if you take one step today towards your goals that’s a step that not everyone else took today!

7. WRITE IT DOWN

Take your thoughts seriously by writing down what they are and where you want them to be. If you want to have the correct mindset on work or school or a reminder of your "why" you may want to write something like: "I'm working to be able to support myself through school in order to have less dept." or "I'm working for God, not for the praise of man."

Write it down and stick it on the back of your front door, that way you see it every day before you head out. You can write it down in a bullet journal . I use this bullet journal, or it can become something that you say out loud to yourself in order to start your day in the right state of mind.

Further Reading: Sorelle Amore: How The Bullet Journal Advanced My Life

Disclaimer: This post contains affiliate links. I love these journals, and I hope you do too. If you snag a journal, I would receive a small amount of money. It would be at no additional cost to you!

"7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.

8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.

9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not." - Galatians 6: 7-9

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How to Relax Mentally

Life can be difficult sometimes, but it's important to relax mentally as well as physically. Here's some step how to relax mentally!

Life can be difficult sometimes, but it's important to relax mentally as well as physically. Here are some practical ways to relax mentally! In August I was very blessed to have multiple days off in a row, and I used them to their full advantage. A couple of friends and I decided we were going to road trip to the grand canyon and back. It's important to allow your mind to reset and relax as well as finding ways to allow your body to physically rest. The mind is a muscle and just like it's important to take a day off of exercise to allow your muscles to recoup, it's also important to allow your mind to relax. 

REALIZE THAT IT TAKES TIME

Before any of the "how to's" start this is the first step because when you first realize that your mind needs to relax as much as your body, it's easy to try to force relaxation. To "make" your mind relax in order to be more productive later on, but are you really relaxing if it's forced? No, the answer to that is no. It's going to take some practice and repetition to have your mind realize that it can relax.

IT'S ALSO GOING TO TAKE REPETITION 

Just like when you're first working out, if you haven't actively helped your mind relax, it probably isn't going to know what to do at first. When you first start to lift weights, your muscles shake because they're not use to lifting that weight. However, after repetition, your muscles start to realize that this is what they do now and they adapt. The mind is the same way. When you realize how much this is important and that it isn't a one time thing, your mind will start to relax well. 

Here are some of the ways to relax well:

  1. READ A PHYSICAL BOOK BEFORE BED

  2. GO OUTSIDE

  3. THREE MINUTE MEDITATION

  4. STEP AWAY FROM YOUR PHONE

  5. KICK IT KID STYLE (COLOR)

  6. SET A 20 MINUTE TIMER AND CLEAN

  7. WRITE IT DOWN

READ A BOOK BEFORE YOU GO TO BED, NO PHONE!

We all know the benefits of reading, but we all also ignore the downside of phone use before going to sleep. You’ve had a difficult day, and you’re ready to sleep…but now you’ll spend the next 30 minutes or more scrolling through Instagram looking up pictures of Bali. Switch it up for a week and I promise you’ll thank me! Allow your mind to start to slow down and put itself in a place where it can relax while sleeping. Reading not only helps your mind focus on other things, but it also helps you have a more sound sleep!

Click to get the book I’ve been reading!! I even love the cover. Become who you were meant to be?! Yes please!

GO OUTSIDE

Take a hike! No, I meant it, or a walk. Breath the fresh air in, and don’t spend all of the time skipping in your phone to find the next song. Remember when we had to listen to the entire song? I do! You can go with some friends to the park and play frisbee, or during your lunch at work step outside. This also helps if you’re stressed or have a job where you look at a screen the entire day. Set yourself a timer and talk a literal “walk around the block”.

THREE MINUTE MEDITATION

This has been a game changer for me! Let’s say your studying for your final and you start to feel overwhelmed by the amount of content, or say you’re working at your desk and realize you’ve been answering emails for an hour. Take just three minutes and stop! Focus on your breathing and your body. Slowly close your eyes and allow your mind to step away from that work for just a moment. You’ll not only be more focused when those three minutes are up, but it will be a more productive study session if you allow your mind to relax than if you had just “pushed through” and studied for the entire three hours.

STEP AWAYS FROM YOUR PHONE

Have you ever gotten the app that shows you how many times you opened your phone in just one day? It feels wrong seeing that number, you think “I couldn’t possibly have opened the phone that many times.” But you did! I went on a hike the other day, and it was honestly so nice to lose service! I couldn’t check any social media, and no one from work could call me, it was just a moment where we could hike and enjoy being outside.

When you’re at home or you’re out to eat with friends, you could turn off your phone! It sounds crazy at first, but after the first moment it will become your new favorite thing to do!

KICK IT KID STYLE

A few years ago coloring for adults made a comeback because of how it has such a wonderful way of having our minds relax! Now you don’t have to spend adult coloring book money. Why were those so expensive? But you can draw something, or create a mood tracker and color it in, print something from online and color that, go to the craft store and grab a canvas and paint that, etc.! Let your mind get creative with it, remember when we use to color skin tones purple and blue, do it! The world is your oyster in your coloring world!

SET A 20 MINUTE TIMER AND CLEAN

Clean just one room or multiple, when you’re cleaning you’ll be amazing how much you can get done in 20 minutes. Do those chores that will help you later in the week. I’ve talked about this in a previous post, but it’s those small 20 minute increments that if we do everyday lead to better mental self care overall!

WRITE IT DOWN

This may sound counter intuitive, but it's not. Write down your to-do list, and your wish list. When your brain is trying to remember everything you have to do throughout the day or the week, you're not really focused, because there is a part of your brain trying to remember all of the things you have to do and want to do this week. When you write it, down your brain can release those thoughts because it knows you have it saved somewhere else.

BONUS TIP: Keep a notepad by your bed so that when you're trying to sleep and you realize you have this extra thing to do tomorrow, you can write it down and forget about it and sleep well!

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5 Things You can do Today to take better care of Yourself

Learn How you Recharge and Why That’s Important

10 Ways to Turn Around a Bad Day

Life can be difficult sometimes, but it's important to relax mentally as well as physically. Here's some step how to relax mentally!
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