Warning/Spoiler Alert: If you haven't seen, or do not want spoilers about Gilmore Girls as a show overall - stop now! If you are a Gilmore Girl, keep reading! Also, have you seen A Year in the Life?
If I had to pick one show that has made the most impact in my life it would definitely be Gilmore Girls! I basically followed shortly behind Rory's life through the entire show. One of my favorite memories of high school is watching this show with my mom.
When I graduated high school I said "It's not so scary anymore." I say "You jump, I jump jack" in everyday life, and I drink enough coffee to truly say the phrase “Coffee, coffee, coffee”. I work in the hospitality industry because of Lorelai and The Independence Inn and eventually The Dragonfly Inn.
I went to Yale on a family vacation so that I could "see" where Rory went to college, and on two other vacations, went to the set in Burbank California to see where it was filmed. I also keep playing with the thought of getting a coffee cup tattoo but can't quite bring myself to it, yet.
Needless to say, this is a very important show to me, and it will always be. I also think there are very true parts about this show that I've learned from.
I LEARNED THAT LOVE IS MESSY
Not only romantic love but also family love. There are things that happen that it's hard to move forward from. When you feel like you're losing someone close to you it makes you want to buy a plane or sometimes the person that you "want to want" isn't the person you know is right for you. On the other side, family connection also goes beyond what you think it could. The people who are close to you will still sleep in your dorm on the first night of college because they love you. They will still build you a chuppah or an ice skating rink because they want to see you happy. Now it's still a T.V. show so your “ice skating rink” may be in the form of dinner being cooked after a hard day, but it's important to show that you care. Don't wait to show someone, especially family, that you love them until the last episode.
YOU CAN’T PUT A CHECKMARK ON HAVING LIFE FIGURED OUT
There are so many different seasons in life, and you can't ever have life fully figured out. There are aspects of life that you can. The priorities that you have need to be a priority, but somewhere along the way "Kirk" is going to come crashing through your diner wall and you have to pick up the pieces. I love watching though the seasons how Rory and Lorelai and every character evolve. Some relationships become stronger, and some disappear. The experiences you have in high school, college, or in your career only help to shape you. However they don’t have to be your identity. If someone is pinning a sign to your dorm room door, you never know who they could end up being in your life.
COFFEE, COFFEE, COFFEE
Coffee is the lifeblood of the work week. I never understood how Lorelai could drink so much coffee, until I started working in the hospitality industry. I have coffee every morning, and most mornings I'm not myself until I've had at least one cup. A really good cup of coffee has the potential to bring friends together and catch up. It also has the potential to help you get through a snow storm when all you want to do is pour all of the leftovers in your cup because you’ve somehow been alive today without coffee. On the flip side of that, it's definitely not healthy to only drink coffee. Make sure your also drinking plenty of water.
Added bonus tip: If you work around a lot of people, take daily vitamins too. There is no way in real life Lorelai wouldn't be fighting off illnesses of all kinds for as many different people you come in contact with in hotels.
TALK FAST, BUT LISTEN WELL
It's ok to talk fast, but you should also listen. I read that after working on the show for so long Alexis (Rory) and Lauren (Lorelai) had a hard time auditioning for other parts because they would talk too fast while reading though the script. On many occasions, I have been told that I speak too fast. Sorry, it's how I talk and it only becomes slurred, not slow, when I'm tired. I always love how fast the dialogue is in this show. When I watch back over episodes I catch different jokes that I didn't understand when I was watching it live. I love that, it keeps your mind quick.
DON’T LET THE “WHAT IFS” TAKE OVER
If you want to do it, do it! Now, we might not all have wealthy grandparents that can help us through an ivy league education, but if you want something you can't let fear stop you from accomplishing your dreams. For years Lorelai and Sookie kept talking about opening an Inn but were nervous that Mia would think they were betraying her in a way. I love that she was so supportive of their dream, but sometimes that doesn't happen. Sometimes, Mitchum Huntzburger happens. You have to know what you want, make sure it's what you want, and then try. If you fail "it will be the most exciting six months" of your life. Don't let the hatters *cough* Mitchum *cough* make you question everything.
YOU CREATE YOUR FAMILY
Despite the Mitchums in the world, there are people out there who truly want to see you succeed in your career and life. Friends can be family too! No on can tell me that Sookie and Lorelai or Rory and Lane aren't family. Friendship is hard, especially if you're away at college and your best friend is still playing in her band far away, but if there are two people who are committed to working at a friendship, it will last. It is important to be there for your friends when they go on their honeymoon and come back pregnant, or need you to help with a Rune while they go on their first date. If you truly love your friends, even if you don't have siblings, your friends can become your family.
I've learned so many things from this show about love, life, coffee, dreams, friends, and so much more. This could really go on for a very long time, because there is so much to connect with from Gilmore Girls. I still have, and watch, my old DVD sets. Remember when the DVDs first came out and they weren't sure how to make the season cases small so it would be literally about four inches thick? Those are the old DVD sets I own.
Every time I watch, it reminds me that life is something that is constantly changing and that a job doesn't mean everything. Having people around that are a fun cast of characters is something that is priceless.
I would LOVE to know:
Have you watched Gilmore Girls?
Do you connect with a particular character?
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