WHY DONE IS BETTER THAN PERFECT

Stop overthinking and get things done! Here's one really good reason why done is better than perfect! #makinggoals #betterthanperfect #dontgiveup

Have you ever started a project and then stopped half way though? I know I have. You start out with such excitement, that child like excitement that nothing can stop you and you’re going to do amazing at whatever you set out to do, and then something changes.

Either something goes wrong, or you break something, or you start to understand why “the path less traveled” is less traveled, and you get discouraged.

Done is better than perfect because in those moments of self doubt you can start to become an unintentional perfectionist.

You give yourself the excuses of why something can’t be finished, and why you're not the most qualified person to do this project, or lead these people. You doubt your abilities and your “voice” in the matter.

However, and this is a big however…what if you just did it!

I mean if Niki can use that slogan, so can you! What if you stopped waiting and just started doing. What if you finished project after project, and just kept doing that? Imagine how many projects you could finish within the next year if you didn’t constantly have to have the project be “perfect” before you presented it.

That’s the real secret, because while you’re out there doing project after project, you’re learning. You’re learning your voice when it comes to that subject, you’re learning what you enjoy about your job, or what career field you want to go into. You’re finishing those books that you never thought you would finish.

Looking back next year at this same time, imagine with me for a moment if you just finished projects!

How amazing would you feel! You would have so many new projects completed, and don’t forget you can always go back and fix mistakes you made in the previous project with the new projects. When you find a subject that you really click with, start doing projects that help you get closer to that “perfection”, but remember that true perfection you’re never going to reach.

That that, digest it, and keep going! “Keep moving forward” as the Robinsons would say!

“Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game” as Hillary Duff would say. Wow, I’m really full of tv quotes today!

Anyways, done is better than perfect, because you’re doing more than most will! You’re finishing projects and books, and ideas you’ve had in your brain. You’re not second guessing yourself on every decision.

Yes, you’ll mess up sometimes doing this, but also who cares! You’re also learning from all of those times you tried and failed! Imagine the scenario of Edison with the lightbulb, he only had to get it right once! He found many many ways not to get it right.

Go and do that too! Try out those projects you’ve been storing in your brain because, by starting those you’re already ahead of the game! When/If you fail, get back up and try again, because done is better than perfect!

7 SELF CARE GIFTS WITH A PURPOSE

December is a notoriously bad time for self care. Give the gift of self care this season with a purpose. 7 gifts that will make a difference in the life if your loved one! Happy gifting! #selfcare #selfcaregiftguide #giftguide

December is notoriously a bad time for self care. There are family members in town that you haven’t seen in a while, there are so many deadlines at work to get caught up on before you have a few days off. You need to makes sure all the food is prepared and the house is clean for that one aunt who will always notice if her present from three years ago isn’t on display. It’s a hard season for self care, but it’s one of the most important because you also have weather chaining and with that comes illness at work. Here are a few ideas for you or a loved one this Holiday season to keep on the self care train! Don’t jump off, end the year strong!

There are affiliate links in this post. All that means is that if you purchase the items, at no cost to you, I would receive a small amount. That amount helps keep this blog running!

BAMBOO ADJUSTABLE BATH TRAY

This is the time of year that I’m all about that self care bubble bath or bath salt. It’s cold outside and your tired from running around. You’re looking for the best present for the work party, and you just need to exhale! This does BATH TRAY that for you. Taking a bath clears your mind and allows you to take a moment to relax, don't think about work, just let your mind wonder. It’s also good for your mental health to not always be “on.”

CEDAR AND VANILLA SOY CANDLE

While you’re enjoying your luxurious bath it is important to be relaxed! I also really love coming home and lighting A SCENTED CANDLE. I love either the crackling wick candles or soy candles, if they can be both I’m always in! This one on top of all of that burns for 60hrs before you even need to think about a new candle!! Amazing! And it smells like vanilla, a good choice for a year round candle!



GOOD DAYS START WITH GRATITUDE: A 52 WEEK JOURNAL

Love this idea! 2018 was a year for me where I really tried to focus on being grateful. With everything that happened this year there were definitely ups and downs to me being grateful, but I tried really hard not to lose sight of that goal. I wish I had though of this GRATITUDE JOURNAL. Each week it helps you keep on track with soemtign that you’re grateful for. If you’re grateful, your mind doesn’t have the space to think about other things at the same time! What are you grateful for?

FITBIT CHARGE THREE: A WATCH WITH A SLEEP TRACKER

We all want to be healthier, and happier, but a bad night sleep, for me at least, really will get in the way of that! With the FITBIT 3 you can start to learn about how you sleep and what your sleeping patters look like. Knowing how you sleep and when your rem cycles are is important. Set yourself up for awake you, by sleeping when and how works best for your body!



FRUIT INFUSED WATER BOTTLE

I for one am notoriously bad at drinking water. I know I need to, but I just don’t want to do it. I pretty much have to trick myself into drinking water on a daily basis. I would much much rather drink coffee, but I’m told that woman can not live by coffee alone, although I will continue to try. For those times that I do need to drink water, I really love FRUIT INFUSED IN WATER. I makes it feel like a better drink, because water really just tastes like nothing if you add nothing! Add some strawberries, or cucumbers and lemons and I’ll think about drinking water.

LIGHT THERAPY ENERGY LAMP

Honestly when I’m feeling down, or have to look at a computer screen for countless hours in a day I will take whatever I can get that will help me be able to focus and get done what I need to. I’ve seen this lamp pop up a few times when it comes to items that can help you mentally! We all know different lights effect our brains differently. The light in this ENERGY LAMP can not only help your mood, but it can help keep or reset your circadian rhythm which will help you sleep better.

A PAMPER KIT

If you’re still not 100% sure what to get, give a little of everything. I love doing this when I’m traveling because it can be easily broken down and built back when the time for presents arises! Also, it’s a great gift for the traveler in your life because it’s a bunch of smaller items they can pick and choose to take with them on their next adventure.

I use this LUSH R&B on my hair almost every day! It’s a wonder product for me, gets rid of the friz and has my hair looking healthy and smooth! Add in the LUSH SLEEPY LOTION for a better night’s sleep, a JELLY FACE MASK, some essential COCOA BUTTER LIP MOISTERIZER, and some WICKED DEEP RED NAIL POLISH and you’re ready for a night on the town, or in watching all of the Hallmark Movies you can find!

HAPPY HOLIDAYS AND HAPPY SELF CARE!

December Goals (10 in 30)

It's that time of year! A time to think back over all that you've accomplished #boss and also a time to set some goals for December. Don't let this month slip by, it's can be the biggest game changer for you #monthlygoals #winterwonderland

We have made it to the last month of 2018. Even saying that sounds so crazy!! I’m going to write 2018 and scratch it out so many times next month. This year more than others has gone so quickly. I have spent quite a lot of it at work, which I don’t regret because it has caused me to be where I am right now.

Over the past few months I’ve really been working though what a work/life balance is and what that looks like, and how I want that to look in my life. I’ve been working through who’s opinion matters and who’s doesn’t. I’ve also been working though a lot when it comes to my own expectations. I’ve had a lot of expectations of what this year was going to bring.

I remember at the beginning of the year I wanted to be more grateful than I had ever been. I really enjoy that I did that. I’ll definitely be praying bout what I feel God wants me to focus on next year. I feel like there have been moments and months of this year that I was very grateful, and times where I truly failed in that department.

Let’s put together some goals for this last month of 2018 shall we!

1// FINISH OUT THE YEAR WITH A GRATEFUL HEART

Over the past month there have been some truly hard days. I’ve been faced with some real subjects that aren’t the most fun to think about. I’m very grateful for my health, and my love ones! November being such a difficult month has really had me focused on how grateful I am for the people around me!

2// GO HOME!

This is my most exciting goal this month! I’m finally getting to go home! I haven’t been home in over a year. I don't want that to happen again. I enjoy visiting Florida and Disney and my friends and family! I’m ready for my tan lines!

3// DECORATE FOR CHRISTMAS

Because November was so difficult I really considered not decorating for Christmas at all. This would have been the first year in my life that I didn’t decorate where I was living. Last night I started putting up a few decorations, and I’m glad. You can’t let a difficult season impact a new season!

4// GO TO DISNEY AND/OR UNIVERSAL

Out of the two I will definitely picking Disney, but I would love if I have the opportunity to go to both. I truly do get a Disney itch that I really need to scratch. There’s a Disney magic that you really can’t find anywhere else. I want to see the fireworks! Ohh, but I also want to have butter beer and go on the Hogwarts ride, I’m torn. I also need to save money though, so that solves that dilemma.

5// FINISH WHAT I NEED TO AT WORK BEFORE FLORIDA

Boo work goal, I know. But it’s also important. I really want to make sure my team is set up for success before I have some time on my own. I also am not excited for the hundreds of emails I will come back to, but it’s important to unplug and refresh!

6// GET THE HEAT FIXED AT MY PLACE

Even as I think of my goals, I am sitting next to a space heater, *face palm* , but life gets busy and I have to choose what to focus on. I can make sure work is good and I’m cooking dinner each night, or I can call about a space heater. I need to find the time I know, but for lack of a better phrase, it’s on my back burner right now.

7// ENJOY THE WINTER SEASON

This is another goal that has been difficult. Since the sun has been leaving me at like 4:30pm each day, it’s been hard for me to do anything after work other than come home and start to prepare for bed. Last year was the first time I had been subject to the “winter blues” and I will say I would return to sender if I could! It’s hard to not be a little bleh when you leave and come home from work it’s dark both times.

8// FINISH WATCHING GILMORE GIRLS FOR THE I’M NOT EVEN SURE WHAT TIME IN TOTAL

Every once in a while I start to run through the entire series and I’m about half way though at this point. Every time I find funny moments that I didn’t catch last time, or that I forgot about. I also really love seeing the characters from a new perspective at each age I watch the show! Not sure if I’m going to watch the “A Year in the Life” after, we shall see.

FURTHER READING: GILMORE GIRLS TAUGHT ME…

9// COME UP WITH AN ACTUAL SCHEDULE FOR POSTING ON HERE AND ON PINTEREST.

I started using Tailwind for my Pinterest because I’m not even sure how many blogs I’ve seen at this point that use and love Tailwind. I actually really do love it to. I’m still working through what makes sense for me, but I love that I can find something and post it later!

Do you have a posting schedule? Do you use Tailwind?

10// KEEP UP WITH MY SELF CARE

This year has been a major eye opener for me when it comes to self care. I’ve gone from really having no self care or boundaries to realizing how important self care is! I saw how self care, or the lack there of, was really effecting me both mentally and physically! I want to keep up the healthy version of self care, and deepen my knowledge of that moving forward!

There they are! My last 10 in 30 for 2018. If you want to catch up on my other goals of 2018, you can click here!

What are you end of the year goals?

How do you feel you did on your goals this year? I would love to hear!

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WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF THIS WAS YOUR LAST LIFE?

We live as though we are not only promised tomorrow, but promised twenty more years on this earth. What if we lived our lives as though this was our last life?

Stream of conscious coming so buckle up:

I was reading an article recently, I read a quote wrong, and it changed my perspective. I read “What would you do if this was your last life?” and I stopped reading the rest. That one misread quote really reminded me that I don’t think about it often enough.

We live as though we are not only promised tomorrow, but promised twenty more years on this earth. What if we lived our lives as though this was our last life?

This questions isn’t meat as a yolo question but a true question that made me stop and take stock of where my life was. What do you actually remember from the past month? There are probably two or three things that stick out in your mind, but the mind is such a funny thing in that we forget. Our mind chooses to remember what we teach it is of value. It will keep the feelings and focus because it has been trained to.

If we tell it that wall street and all of the happenings there are the most important thing to remember, it will. Likewise, if we train our minds to remember people as what is most important the mind, as a muscle, will eventually learn how to keep that part as one of the main focuses.

Someone said to me recently that they appreciated knowing that they were a small part in history and that eventually everyone would forget about them when they were gone. Heartbreaking right? I choose to see it a different way. I am here on this earth for whatever time I am gifted. In that time I want to make sure my focus is on what matters. What matters to me is two fold: Jesus and people.

I am a curator of things, but if it all burnt down what really matters? What do I hold in more high esteem? We tend to only think of these type of questions when tragedy hits, or is looming. Why not carry that thought process throughout life and not feel like it was wasted at all? When people have a bad diagnosis, or see a tragedy they think about what their life has been and where they want it to go from there.

Take a moment to do that now, without having it brought on by tragedy. What a wonderful gift that is. Learn from those moments you know you’re making an impact. Don’t wait to focus on them until later.

Today is the only day you’re promised, and for some not even that. Be grateful for your health, and your loved ones, for your home, or pet, or child, or for getting out of that bad situation. Remember how strong you are and how much potential you have.

Tap into that potential, because no matter how hard someone tries they can not hold you back unless you allow them to have that power over you. You are powerful! You have a purpose! Don’t forget that!

FURTHER READING:

SELF CARE: LET’S TALK ABOUT THAT

SIMPLE WAYS TO IMPROVE YOUR MINDSET

HOW TO RELAX MENTALLY

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27+ UNDER $20 CHRISTMAS PRESENTS (AND STOCKING STUFFERS)

Be prepared this Holiday season with 20 Christmas items under $20. Use them as gifts, or for yourself! Get ahead of the curve!

I’m diving in! I’ve already started watching the Hallmark/Netflix Holiday movies. I’m in the spirit, and this is the only time of year that I can find my name pretty much everywhere you look! I’m ready to have my home and my life feel like the holiday season.

Looking to “spruce” up your Christmas Season? (see what I did there?) In the “spirit” of making goals and budgeting for this holidays season, (ok I’ll stop), Here are some of my favorites! At the time this was posted all of the below items were below $20! Amazon may update though, so get them before the prices go up! (said in my best announcer voice).

All of the items below are with affiliate links, why? Because I like these products. I find them fun and a good addition to the Holiday Season, and I want to buy them for myself too! If you buy them I get a small amount, at no cost to you! This allows me to do things like keep creating this content!

Further Reading: HOW TO BUDGET FOR THE HOLIDAYS

COZY HOME!

HOLIDAY MOVIES:

Find out more of my favorite Christmas Movies on day 2 of “25 Days of Christmas Posts”

MICKEY MOUSE MUG WARMER

FOR THOSE WHO LIKE BIG MUGS (AND CAN NOT LIE)

FOR THE HEALTH FOCUSED

Check out more ideas for the coffee lover in your life HERE!

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Gift Guide For The Coffee Addict In Your Life

Have a coffee lover in your life? Wondering what to get them? Here are some hints!

Gimme, gimme, gimme the coffee! There have been real times at work when someone went and got me a coffee because they could tell that I hadn’t had my coffee yet in the morning. I’m going to take that as they know me, and not in a bad way.

Basically what I’m saying is I love coffee! And I guess it’s lesser loved by me cousin, tea. If you have a coffee lover in your life, below are some of my favorites to use!! Also at the time this was posted almost all of the below were 50% off!! How great is that!

This post does have affiliate links, and what that means is that if you purchase any of the items below I would receive a small amount at no cost to you! This amount helps me keep this blog running! As does coffee!

We’re starting right where we should ladies and gentlemen, with Gilmore Girls! If you have clicked on even a single section of this little corner of the internet, you will have noticed how many references are made to Gilmore Girls. I personally own the mug, and I love it! Except for the hand washing part, that I could do without!

Oi, with the poodles already!

Also, I really do drink coffee like a Gilmore and proud of it! I’ve been to Stars Hollow and I really wish they sold a sweater like the Luke’s one here. I would have bought it!


A French Press! Because, I mean how beautiful is that. I’m sure it’s probably everyones favorite part of the process, but when you push down the filter! Ohh and breaking the “coffee crust”. Now I just want coffee, that’s what this entire thing is going to end up, me wanting coffee.

THE WORLD ATLAS OF COFFEE has a step by step process of coffee. Not just, here’s how you brew a good cup of coffee, but even taking a step back, for the beans overall. I have a dream of wanting to go to a coffee farm one day, and this sparks that want even more!

At the time that this post went out, this Ninja Coffee Bar IQ was 50% off!! That means for all of the above it was $99 USD plus shipping yass! I love a good coffee bar, and my favorite part of this is that it’s pod free, meaning that I can use whatever coffee I want as opposed to having to choose a specific brand because it works with the coffee maker! Also building off of that is the below!

I have this coffee grinder! I love it. This was something that really did change the way I make coffee. It was accidentally started because “sleepy Joy” as I call her, was grocery shopping and bought whole bean instead of ground coffee and I had to figure out what to do with it. I’m very glad she did that, because a freshly ground cup of coffee is so much better!!! This Mr. Coffee grinder only takes about 10 seconds to grind the coffee beans and you have freshly ground coffee!! Worth it!

The desk mug!! Such a critical decision You’ve made a beautiful cup of coffee and you don’t want it to get cold before you finish it. This is a great mug! I’ve gotten really busy and haven’t had the chance to finish my coffee and then I return and it’s still hot! What more can you ask for!? Love This YETI 14oz rambler

Don’t take my coffee card away, but this is the coffee maker that I don’t have, but really want. However, it’s also glass and I know myself so I’m torn!! Do you own a Chemex? I watch Peter McKinnon make coffee in this all the time, it looks so good! Also, if you don’t know who Peter McKinnon is, where have you been? Go watch!! We’ll after this go watch!

FURTHER READING:

THE BEST COFFEE SHOPS IN DENVER

Lastly, where should you store all of your wonderful coffee? In a tray on the coffee table of course!! Love a good white wash.

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Real Ways to Find Peace in College When You're Feeling Burt Out

College can be overwhelming! What are ways you can get yourself out of being burnt out? Here's what I did.

I am so proud of you for continuing your education! It doesn’t matter if you’re going to a local college or an away school, it doesn't matter if you’re 45 years old or 17 years old: College can be overwhelming!

So, you’re in college, trying your hardest and feeling burnt out! I know that feeling all too well.

Let’s start with a little background. When I first went to college I was 17, and I just moved out of my parents house into an apartment with two strangers. I didn’t have a car or any way of getting around other than the bus that took me from my apartment to school. I watched wayyyy too much of the TV show Crime Scene Investigation, and my “new apartment” ended up giving me mold poisoning. Life was grand!

Oh also, in my first semester in my first every college class I got all grades. By that I mean, I got everything from an “F” to eventually an “A” on projects and tests.

Boy was I burnt out and it was only the beginning of college. Now what!! Looking back and thinking how I got through that funk of the first year, I took some real steps without realizing it. Those steps I completely tribute to my college experience ending the way it did. By the end of college I love it! I had a community of close friends, and I was financially free.

Here are the steps I took. They really helped me, and I believe if you stick to them, they can help you too! This post contains affiliate links to some of the resources that I used in college, and that I use today. I’ve linked them because they really have helped me either save time or remember! If you do purchase them I would get a small amount, at no cost to you. Personally my favorite is the notebook at the end because it’s made a huge impact on my day to day!

FIRST STEP: REALITY

Let’s start with an exhale, and a reality check: If you’re feeling burnt out admit that to yourself!

Don’t try to hide the fact that you’re feeling overwhelmed from everyone around you, including yourself, because it’s not healthy. It isn’t helping you move into an actionable state of mind if all of your focus is on convincing yourself that you’re “fine”.

Have a real moment with yourself and allow yourself to take in the fact that you’re feeling burnt right now.

That’s the key word though at the end, did you catch it? Right now! Right now you’re feeling burnt but it’s temporary. You don’t have to feel burnt out and overwhelmed. You aren’t in control of the fact that you’re feeling burnt, but you are the one in control of if you allow yourself to stay in this mindset.

That’s what it is too, it’s a mindset of feeling overwhelmed. You are strong and wonderfully made, you are not an accident and you can choose a different outcome!!

Why is this step important?: Because if you don’t take a moment to feel how you’re feeling, how are you meant to work through that. If you continue to super woman through, and not allow yourself to think through your feelings, you’re not helping yourself grow!

STEP TWO: GET IT OUT

Write down all of the reasons that you’re feeling overwhelmed. For me, my list looked like this:

I Don’t feel prepared, I don’t have a way to get around, I don’t have my friends with me at school anymore, I don’t have an income, how am I paying for school?, I need to get out of this apartment, I need to eat something other than pasta, CSI is depressing.

All of those were so real to me! It’s important to write down all that you have to do or all that is frustrating to be able to work through it. If you don’t articulate what’s making you feel burnt out, you can’t make steps towards feeling less burnt!

Also journaling is a sub-step that is important. I find that when I journal regularly I find out my emotions that I didn’t realize I was feeling. I find out the secrets that were hiding in the back of my mind that I wasn’t realizing were the cause of my anxiety, or my stress.

STEP THREE: HAVE FOOD IN THE HOUSE.

This sounds like such an odd step, because how does this make you feel less burnt out? Have you ever been really hungry. That horrible state where you can’t think properly because you’re so hungry, and because you’re so hungry everything else seems worse? I have! Take care of a physical need of yours! It will help you be able to correctly think through what you can and can’t control in your situation. Eat a good breakfast or a good lunch and then start to think about the next step.

Why is this step important?: Because a healthy you is a clearly thinking you. Because it’s important to take care of your health when you have it. Take precautionary steps to eat healthy now and create those habits for later when you’re working 10-12hr days and don’t feel like eating healthy. You’ll be much more inclined to not go through the drive through if you know you have healthy ingredients at home that you can use for dinner.

STEP FOUR: ONE THING YOU CAN DO NOW

One small step for college student…I’m only kidding, but think about it. What’s one step that you can do that will start to make you feel less burnt.

Can you join a study group for a class that you’re feeling overwhelmed in? This will help you get some perspective from others and will give you a little socialization.

Can you look for a cheap and safe car on craigslist or another used website that will give you more freedom? Can you start to look into scholarships that can help pay for school?

Can you go outside and study? See the sunlight. It really will help your mood without you realizing.

Accomplish one thing you’ve had on your “to do list” for a while. You’ll feel so much better!

Further Reading: HOW TO HAVE A MORE PRODUCTIVE HOUR

STEP FIVE: GET AROUND PEOPLE

THIS STEP WILL MAKE A HUGE IMPACT!

However, this is the step that will also cost you the most. This is the step that costs your your pride, and your fear, but in return gives you companionship and joy. You are not made to be an island! In fact, when you act like you are, and don’t associate yourself with friends or loved ones regularly it effects your mental health.

Let’s keep using me as the example of the “don’t do this!” I’m sitting in my apartment, watching the depressing CSI hours on end for the entire first year of college, not making any effort to be around people.

Let’s also take first year me and compare her with second year me. Second year me did the awkward thing and showed up to an on campus group. I knew no one at the time, but I showed up! Which for me was huge at the time! I sat in the back and didn't say much, but after I went out and signed up for a weekly group.

That one step made all the difference! I ended up in that group, finding people that are still some of my closest friends today! It also took me a few times and a few groups before I “clicked”, so if you don’t make life long friends from the first group you join, it’s ok! Keep trying, you’ll find them! There is no way in college that you’re the only one looking for a group to be around!

STEP SIX: YOU’RE NOT THE ONLY ONE

When you’re in a season of new, you’re not the only one in that season, especially at college! In fact when you’re a freshman, you literally have an entire new class of freshmen looking around like you are with maps. None of you know how to get to class easily, and you’re all not sure if you like the campus food.

There is a lie that is put into your mind when you feel alone. That lie is not true! You have many comrades around you also walking the longest way possible to class because they aren’t sure where to go. Don’t believe the lies

There are moments in college that it can feel overwhelming, but it’s so worth it! There are experiences in college the you would never have the opportunity to experience if you were not right where you are. There is a purpose to this! Keep the people around you that encourage you to be better! You can do this!

STEP SEVEN: GIVE YOURSELF RESOURCES

I wrote a whole other post about resources pertaining to life, but the same applies to college. Don’t let the college book store fool you. You can find that book elsewhere! You don’t have to spend the $200 on the book, share with a friend and that also gives you a reason to hang out at the beginning of the friendship. One of the biggest resources I found after college that I wish I had in college was this type of notebook! I love that notebook, because it’s the small simple act of being able to move the pages around that doesn’t cause me to have to think about where I’m writing.

Remember growing up and having those notebooks that put the dividers in it for you? I always hated those because I would have one section where it was all full, and another where I had written on two pages. Now I have the freedom to do what I want with the notebook the world is my oyster and I’m in!

FURTHER READING:

WHAT I WISH I KNEW IN COLLEGE

7 WAYS TO CHANGE YOUR MINDSET

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

You can do anything but not everything
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