How to Adapt Your Goals to the Way You Think!

When you set goals, are you working with how your brain can accomplish those goals, or are you trying to make yourself be something that you're not? Here's what I've found from altering how I made goals and tips on how you can be more successful with your goals! #makinggoals #howtobesuccessfulwithgoals

Ready for some ideas on how to make your goals work for you? Me too! Here’s what I’ve learned. New Video!

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Here are some of the tips from the video, and a bonus tip!

1// Look back on your past goals to what insight they have as to why you did or didn’t accomplish them

2// Realize that January 1st is not a magical day. You can make any day January first if you start to take your goals seriously

3// Make your goals work for you. Work with your brain instead of against it

4// Break your larger goals into smaller goals so that you see the progress and feel accomplished throughout the process

5// Give yourself grace when you don’t accomplish everything you want to right away, or when you fail at a goal you had set for the month

6// Write it down! It doesn’t matter if it’s a large or small accomplishment, write down what you’ve succeeded at so that on the hard days you have something to look back on to remind you that you have made progress.

BONUS: Learn more about how you think. Take a Myers Briggs or an Enneagram test to learn something new about how you operate through goals. While these tests are certainly not gold, they do provide nuggets of truth in them that you can use to learn more about how you interact with the world, and in turn how you can make goals that work for you!

What does Stress, Burnout, and Anxiety really look like?

Is your stress level normal or are you getting close to being burnt out? Find out, and how to combat it!!

Whatever stage in life you are in right now there are real reasons why there are so many creatives, and others sharing how they've gone through burn out in the past, or are working through anxiety or burn out right now.

Burnout obviously isn’t a necessity, nor do we want it to be, but if you are feeling some of the below you could be on a path to burnout.

FIRST: BURNOUT CAN LOOK MAY DIFFERENT WAYS. IF YOURS DOESN’T LOOK EXACTLY LIKE EVERYONE ELSES IT’S STILL JUST AS IMPORTANT TO LISTEN TO!

Five plus years ago everything was telling us to keep going, and work for the life that you deserve, don’t ever give up, 80+ hours a week at work is normal. Everyone else is doing it, and so can you!

These were all small lies that added together produced a very unhealthy view of ourselves. If you’re like me, you ended up working too much, and not realizing when enough was enough. I would be five hours into my work day and then I would realize that I haven’t had any water or eaten really anything that day.

You may ask yourself, “those” other people are doing it and they’re fine so why can’t you do it too? Why are you waking up in the middle of the night writing down things for work so that you “don’t forget them”. You’re feeling anxious in the middle of a shopping store? Oh, it must just be because you forgot to eat again, it couldn’t possibly be the stress.

It is unhealthy thoughts like this that lead many to that moment when enough is enough. You have this ah ha moment that you realize that this isn’t normal. You being to peel back layers or realization that those times you couldn’t sleep aren’t normal, and that’s not ok that you felt overwhelmed in the way that you did. Not all stress is healthy stress no matter how many times people tell you it is.

NOW WHAT? NOW THAT YOU KNOW WHAT BURNOUT CAN LOOK LIKE; WHERE DO YOU GO FROM HERE?

You’ve realized you are too stressed, or that you are working though anxiety, but what do you do now?

This sounds very simple, but many, including myself forget this all of the time…take a moment to close your eyes and breathe.

No matter how the day is going or the year is going, it’s not over. Take a still moment to realize that you’ve been going so hard that you’ve really been latching onto control of something that you truly don't have 100% control over, you. It’s ok that you don’t have that control either because that same stress from wanting to control everything, is the stress you are looking to get rid of and let go of.

I personally believe in God. I believe that I’m made for a specific purpose and that purpose isn’t to be stressed all the time. Now, that realization doesn’t change my circumstances right away, but it is a constant reminder that I believe God’s plan is better than the one I’ve been so fully trying to make happen on my own.

It may be a hard humble pill to swallow, but it’s worth it. Don't feel that you’re an island in this either because there are so many right coming forward with their stories, and when you listen to them everyones is a little different. Many business owners, or those who have accidentally climbed the corporate latter, those who are not super sure how rent is going to be paid, or those who still seem to have it all together have opened up about their struggles with this same topic.

ONE ACTION STEP THAT YOU CAN TAKE TODAY IS BETTER THAN TWO TOMORROW. ONE SMALL STEP, DON’T TRY TO MAKE YOURSELF NOT FEEL BURNT OUT. YOU WON’T HEAL IF YOU TRY TO FORCE YOURSELF TO.

It takes more courage to ask for help than it does to try to do everything on your own. What area of your life would feel a little less chaotic if you took a moment to work on it. This could be as simple as cleaning off your desk. Taking a moment each day to start to move the needle towards balance is so important. Here are some other ideas that you could work on each day:

Take a moment to get bak to the basics and write down your “WHY”.

Take a moment to get back to basics and clean up the environment you live in.

Take a moment to get back to basics, and create some sort of routine for your body so that it knows you are taking care of it when you wake up.

Take a moment to get back to basics, and call or see a friend that you haven’t talked to in a long time.

Take a moment to get back to basics, and reach out to someone who is a professional listener to help you think through things.

Take a moment for your mental and physical health, because if you don’t your body will make you.

FURTHER READING:

REAL WAYS TO FIND PEACE IN COLLEGE: WHEN YOU’RE FEELING BURNT OUT

WHY ASKING “WHY” IS SO IMPORTANT

STARTING WITH YOU: SELF CARE IDEAS

REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE

This one is huge! When we feel stressed we tend to start to feel like we’re the only one in this boat, and no one else is dealing with what we’re dealing with. That’s simply not true! You may be burnt out or stressed right now, but you’re not alone in that. You are not an island and there are many many resources that you have to help you be mentally, physically, and spiritually healthy again!

Have you ever dealt with burnout? Are you working through it now? Let me know! This is all about helping each other!

February Goals (10 in 30)

The 10 Books That Have The Power To Change Your Life

Every day is the beginning of the rest of your year. It's all about getting a bang for your buck! I believe in making sure that your time is spent well. Money you can get back, but no matter how hard you try, you can never get back time! Looking for a book that’s definitely worth the time? Me too!

I’m all about getting a bang for your buck! I believe in making sure that your time is spent well. Looking for a book that’s definitely worth the time? Me too!

I’m always on the hunt for a really good book. I want to learn and grow as a person from a book, I don't want it to only be another book I’ve read that I check off of a list. If you know about the enneagram test, I’m a 3. Meaning I always want to accomplish things! I want to complete goals and make progress. At my best, I have the ability to connect and really want to see people grow and fulfill their passions!! A few other 3’s are Oprah, Tony Blair, Tony Robbins, Reese Witherspoon, etc.

Click on any of the titles of the books or on the pictures below to go to the links!!

This post does contain affiliate links, meaning if you do learn from one of these books I would receive a small amount of money, at no additional cost to you!!

THE ROAD BACK TO YOU - IAN CRON AND SUZANNE STABILE

READ IF: You’re looking to learn more about your own personality and how that connects with others.

To jump off of the above, I’ve found it very helpful to learn about myself and how I find worth if I’m healthy or unhealthy. Now, this isn't the Bible so it’s not perfect, but it’s a fun way to learn how you connect with others. You learn about some of your strengths and weeknesses, and if you’re a healthy you and an unhealthy you how you react at times. I’ve also made so many of my friends take this test! I’m a little obsessed.

THE BIBLE - BY JESUS

READ IF: You’re looking for meaning in you life, or you’re confused about what your purpose in life is

I really got a good chuckle from the author. I find it funny, I mean he created Ostriches what are they for? Anyway, back to the point. The Bible is the most important book in my life. It can’t imagine where I would be without it. I’ve learned about the most important man in history, connected with my creator, and learned about His plans for my life. What more could you ever want from a book. Non fiction with life changing abilities! Number one, would recommend! I also really love the JOURNALING BIBLE that I have because it gives me the freedom to write in the margins without writing over all of the words!

GIRL, WASH YOUR FACE - RACHEL HOLLIS

READ IF: You need to be reminded that you’re not alone in the woman world of not being perfect

This is a more recent love, but I appreciate this book more than I love it. I really like in GIRL, WASH YOUR FACE how she connects and gives real insight into her life. She discusses her family and work life. She is venerable multiple times, but the time that really sticks out to me is when she is talking about how she is a workaholic. I’ve never considered myself that, up until this past year when I realized that’s exactly what I am. I dive sometiems too far into work without even realizing I should come up for air, or food! I’ll work 11hrs and not take a break because “there’s too much to do.” Not ok. It was nice to see another female discuss that in a real way.

LEADERS EAT LAST/ START WITH WHY - SIMON SINEK

READ IF: You’re looking to be a better leader. You’re looking to be a leader that inspires others to be their best.

Flash back to a few years ago when I was a new leader. I was green when it comes to leadership skills, except for seeing some leaders in my life that were wonderful and set a great example, and there were some that I learned what not to do from. Besides that, I was basically winging it. LEADERS EAT LAST really changed the way I thought about leadership. I love the example of good leaders and how they create an environment of safety. They understand that inside vs. outside the organization how safe do we feel at work? How safe do you make your employees feel at work? I also love his other book START WITH WHY because it’s the internal question. What is your why? Why do you do what you do? How does that translate to leadership? All are answered in this book!

5 LOVE LANGUAGES - GARY CHAPMAN

READ IF: You’re looking to learn more about how others in your life receive and give love.

This is the book that helped me look within and realize what I value most in a relationship, both romantic and platonic. It helped me narrow down what is important to me when it comes to my loved one and helped me realize what’s important to them. What my LOVE LANGUAGES are may not be theres and I have to realize and take action on that knowledge. If they receive love by gifts vs. quality time how am I showing them love based upon how they receive it?

It also really helped with understanding the differences between loved one. For example, someone may think they are a quality time person, but find out that how they show love is quality time, but how they receive love is gifts. My mom found that out. It helped our relationship me knowing that, because this whole time I never fully understood why every gift meant so much, because for me gift giving is neither how I’m programed to show or receive love.

Now that I know that I’ve made sure that all gifts for her are very specific! She knows Iove her without gifts, but it strengthens our relationship for me to know that it’s important to her weather she realized it at the time or not.

THE GREAT GATSBY - F. SCOTT FITZGERALD

READ IF: You’re looking to be reminded that whatever you’re going through isn’t as bad as Gatsby

This is one of my favorites when it comes to fiction. I love how sad and joyful it can be all at the same time. I love how some of the characters learn about themselves and life in general, and how some really have never connected with reality or will.

The first time I read this I was in high school, and now whenever I go to a bookstore I’m always on the hunt for a vintage copy of this book. I have this thing about always wanting to “save” old books. I’m positive I’m not the only one doing that!

THE OXFORD SHAKESPEARE THE COMPLETE WORKS - STANLEY WELLS AND GARY TAYLOR

READ IF: You’re looking to expand your horizons, and read one of the greats.

This was back in high school again, just getting into reading for fun and not for school and two authors came across my path thanks to my english teach. Shakespeare and Poe. Both of these authors changed the way I saw books. I love that Shakespeare when he couldn’t find the word, just made it up, I loved how Poe didn’t hide his feelings, and I loved how they both took them wherever the story was. This book changed the way I thought about reading.

THE SCREWTAPE LETTERS - C.S. LEWIS

READ IF: You need a reminder of how we sometimes get in our own way, and how easily humans overlook the obvious.

This is a once a year at least, read for me. When I first read it, I was a little confused because the premise of the book is one daemon writing to his trainee pretty much. When they say “the enemy” it’s God, not Satan. Satan is the father. I know, it sounds backwards. The main reason I love this book is because of the obvious things that we, as humans, either blame on Satan that is really just us putting roadblocks in our own way, or other things that we do as humans that are obviously dumb, but that we don't realize are dumb.

THE TOTAL MONEY MAKEOVER - DAVE RAMSEY

READ IF: You’re looking to get out of debt/ control your finances.

Looking to correct or verify your finances? This book is the one I used for pretty much mu life. Now, I’m not perfect, and don’t tell Dave but I have a credit card *hides face, but I really do try to follow many of the principles in this book.

There are so many good ways to live that are so counter culture, but so helpful! My favorite quote of Dave Ramsey is “Live like no one else, so that later you can live and give like no one else.” Genius!!

FURTHER READING: 7 STEPS TO GET AHEAD OF YOUR FINANCES

THE MAGNOLIA STORY / HOMEBODY - CHIP AND JOANNA GAINES

READ IF: You need some home inspiration, or you want to be reminded that you’re not the only one who doubts their God given talents.

Love them! I basically want to grow up and be Joanna. I love how she cares for everyone and has learned to trust God and her instincts. I appreciate how her relationship with Chip brings out aspects of their personalities that separately they may not have trusted themselves to.

I also love how much she loves her children. She has found a way to be a woman in business, a mother, and a wife. More power to her!!

BONUS: TWO BOOKS NEXT ON MY LIST ARE

15 INVALUABLE LAWS OF GROWTH - JOHN MAXWELL

BRAVING THE WILDERNESS - BY BRENE BROWN

What’s the book in your life that changed your thinking? I would love to add it to my list!

A Week of Gratitude - Take One Step Each Day for A Full Week of Gratitude

Weeks all blend together while we’re not paying attention. In the spirit of intention and gratitude, let’s combine forces and focus on one step each day for a more gratitude filled heart! #grateful #aweekofgratitude #intentionalliving #onedayatatime #selfcare #goals

Weeks all blend together while we’re not paying attention. This next week is one of the most famous weeks of the year. It’s the beginning! It’s the “start over” that many focus on, but each week really is a start over isn’t it? In the spirit of those two thoughts, let’s combine forces and focus on gratitude and intentional living this week all all of the weeks thereafter.

PS: One easy way to make sure that you remember this week is by documenting it. Take out a journal and write down at least a scribble each day thinking over your successes and lessons you learned.

If you’ve never journaled before and need a place to start, try “stream of consciousness” journaling for 5 minutes when you wake up, or before you go to bed.

SUNDAY

The beginning. Today, focus on the possibilities. Be grateful that you’ve had the chance to even start another week. You were never promised that you would, but here you are! How wonderful is it to have the blank slate of the day. You could wake up at 5am like everyone is obsessed with right now, or you could sleep in and let the sun wake you up as beams reach you.

The world is your oyster!

MONDAY

Monday’s can be hard. Today be grateful for a step you’ve taken in the right direction. You may be at the start of the work week, but you can start it off well or you can start it off by focusing on not the 20. There is a saying that speaks on focusing on the 20 that gets you the 80. What that means, if you’ve never heard it, is that 20 precent of whatever you’re doing is going to give you 80 percent of the result. So what percent are you focused on?

On the off-chance you won’t live forever, maybe you should try being happy now.
— Janice Kaplan, The Gratitude Diaries

TUESDAY

You’re in the week now, not quite to the middle, but you’re making progress. Today be grateful for what you do have as opposed to what you don’t. In today’s society we have the freedom to make choices. Think of how different that is than two hundred years ago. Think of how many resources you have in front of you right now. The device you’re on has more information than anyone has ever had before at their fingertips.

What are you grateful that you have in your life?

WEDNESDAY

A moment to exhale. Today don’t focus on the stress from life, but on a day of self care. Take that bubble bath that is so popular under this category, or take a moment to remember your mental health. If you’re not 100% that’s ok, give yourself grace today. Be grateful that you’re taking a moment to focus on you; something that we all do is going through weeks and not remembering to take a breather.

What separates privilege from entitlement is gratitude.
— Brené Brown

THURSDAY

Today be grateful for loved ones. Take a moment today to take the time and be intentional about connection. Call a loved one on the phone or take it a step further and write a snail mail letter to send to them. Think about how many sacrifices friends and family have made to see you or to take time out of their busy lives to go out for a coffee. People and time are the resources that are the two most important not to waste! Be grateful for those you have in your life that are “your people”.

FRIDAY

Look how fast that came! It’s already here and it feels like just yesterday it was Sunday. Today focus to be grateful for all that you have learned from this week. The intention that you had around this week’s decision and plans.

This week you thought about what you wanted to do and were grateful for many aspects we tend to take for granted, and look how easy that was. You’re stretching those grateful muscles and creating a habit. It all starts in the decision to be grateful. You’ve got this!

SATURDAY

Today do an act of gratitude. Impact someone elses life with what you’re doing. This week was a start week of remembering to be grateful for what you have and don’t have. There are times that we miss that second part. Being grateful for what you don’t have is just as important as being grateful for what you do have! Be grateful that you have the money and the time that you have, by doing something small or big for another person.

Work on the intention piece by buying the person behind you in the drive through line their food, or another person’s coffee at Starbucks. Offer to cook for a friend or family member so that they don’t have to worry about dinner tonight.

Do something today expecting nothing in return.

Planing A Lovely 2019. Make memories not resolutions.

Plan a lovely 2019. Thinking over 2019; it is such a wonderful blank slate. So many possibilities of memories made, and goals fulfilled, and times with friends and family. #makinggoals #2019goals #planningahead #makememories

Thinking forward to 2019; it is such a wonderful blank slate. So many possibilities of memories made, and goals fulfilled, and times with friends and family. How wonderful is that!

Although I do not have an overall resolution, there are some fun things, and overall items that I would like to accomplish in 2019.

MY WORD OF THE YEAR - INTENTION

Last year I started with A WORD OF THE YEAR. One word that I pray flows through my year. My word of 2018 was grateful. It was a time in my life that I really needed to be reminded to be grateful in the times of success and struggle. I needed to be reminded that no matter the timing I had in mind, Jesus’ timing is always better.

For 2019 I’ve been thinking over it, and I believe it is intention. Intention in my decisions, in my career, in my relationship with God, and others. Intention to move towards my goals and make steps to do so.

Intention to spend time in the word and to read more overall!

I also have thoughts and possibilities I would love to come true throughout the year. This year I’m going to speak my goals into existence! I trust, and I’m taking steps towards them!

SEE A LIVE ORCHESTRA PERFORM

How wonderful is that! This is so simple, but to me, that sounds like such a wonderful way to spend a night at the theater!

Who doesn't want to live in Stars Hollow. I want to go to the Founder's day parade, and the Luke's Diner and The Dragonfly inn. I'm ready, bags are packed and I'm looking for my second home!

FOCUS MORE ON MY MUG BUSINESS

Surprise! That exists. FIND MY MUGS HERE! Let me know what you think. I made the mugs that I would want to have but couldn’t find, but I want to make sure more than anything that it’s something that you would like. So please, let me know what you think!

I have this obsession with coffee and in my house there are no cups only mugs, so this just makes sense!

LEARN NEW RECIPIES

While visiting home, I made my grandmother’s cheesecake and I remembered how much I truly enjoy cooking. This year I would like to add more to my repertoire on both the baking side and the cooking side.

It also adds to the healthier side of life, and the self care side of things too which I learned from 2018 is a necessity.

SPEND TIME WITH LOVED ONES

Both friends and family. I want to make sure that my goals are inline. I want to make sure I’m spending the beginning and best part of the day with Jesus and taking time to spend the rest of the day with those who matter.

Sometimes the dishes can wait to watch a movie with friends. It’s also important to make sure to live a balanced life, and sometimes that means having an at home movie night with friends to spend time together and save money!

LIVE A MORE BALANCED LIFE

This year I want to make sure I’m focused on balance. Working to live instead of living to work. I want to make sure that I’m working hard when I’m working, but also giving myself the freedom to unplug when I’m off. Balance is hard, you have to make sure you’re not going too far one way. It can be just as dangerous to tilt too far on the side of relaxation and not working.

Balance is the key for a better week. Self care is both knowing when not to work, but also when it’s important and healthy to work hard!

FURTHER READING: STARTING WITH YOU: SELF CARE IDEAS

SEE NEW PLACES

Explore and get outdoors. I want to see at least three new places that I’ve never visited before. Adventure is out there, and I want to experience it!

These are only a few of the experiences and goals I have the intention for in 2019, but you have to start somewhere! DONE IS BETTER THAN PERFECT.

Do you have a word for each year? What’s your resolution for 2019?

THINKING OVER 2018 - Eat The Banana Pancakes

There are a few days left to think over 2018, and prepare for 2019. However, I challenge you to think about WHO you want to be. Over the next few days, when the stress of x,y, and z starts to creep in, think over who you have been in 2018, and who you want to be in 2019. Celebrate your wins this year, and learn from the times you didn’t.

Good Morning! It’s Holiday time, where we all try to go back home to our families, or we’re happy to not be with our families. Either way it is a stressful time of the year, so what are you doing about it?

There are a few days left to think over 2018, and prepare for 2019. However, I challenge you to think about WHO you want to be. Over the next few days, when the stress of x,y, and z starts to creep in, think over who you have been in 2018, and who you want to be in 2019. Celebrate your wins this year, and learn from the times you didn’t.

I don’t really make goals each year, but I think over principles. This year I wanted to be more grateful than I have ever been. There were days of success and failure, but I kept that in my mind the whole year, and it was a great reminder!

FURTHER READING: LIVE A GENEROUS LIFE

It’s like thinking over one of “those weeks” where either work is very stressful, or family and friends end up being stressful. There’s always decisions in life that you can make that take you one of two directions. There truly are moments where you have to make a decision, and you can chose to make a decision that brings you closer to the “who” that you want to be, or you can make a decision that you’re “suppose to make”.

REASSESS 2018

Taking a set back for our checklists and to-do lists, think about life for a second. How fast life is and how important certain aspects are and how unimportant others are. I remember being a kid and all I wanted in school was this certain backpack. A personalized backpack is huge for kids in school because, if you went to a school with a uniform like I did, it’s the one time where you can choose what you want to wear. It was a tan corduroy backpack with flowers embroidered the bottom right corner. Also, it was a cross body backpack, I was very stylish!

However, looking back, that was not a big life decision. The larger decision I made that year was when another kid in my class decided to be cruel to me, to not be cruel back. That was a life decision. I call it “eating the banana pancakes”

WHAT WERE YOUR PANCAKE MOMENTS THIS YEAR?

Did you choose to spend time with those you love? Did you spend a little too much for the sake of enjoying your time together? Was it worth the money spent? Did you step out of your comfort zone because you know if you eat oatmeal you’ll forget about this later in life? Did you pick something new off of the menu and step out and eat something new? Were you kind to those when others were cruel to you? There is already enough hate in this world, don’t add to it.

I call this moment “eating the banana pancake” because it’s not something super far out there, but it’s a moment where you choose to do something fun, and a little out of your comfort zone simple because you want to have some fun. You take a trip for the weekend to see friends, you go outside an play volleyball, or you take a horseback riding class because it’s something exciting to do a little out of the norm. All of a sudden those little moments of being WHO you were wanting to be, actually add up to those larger life decisions, and you didn’t even know it.

THINKING TOWARDS 2019

That’s how life is. It’s small decisions here and there, some unimportant in the moment and some important that eventually make us into who we are. We choose those decisions, and make those memories for ourselves once we leave home. What decisions will you make through the rest of this year, and into 2019?

What pancakes will you eat, and what others will you save the calories on?

PS: I’m very excited to share with you one of my goals completed for 2018 and starting in 2019. Theres a pretty obvious hint over on my instagram!