Nine Ways to Have A Relaxing Weekend

Work and Life can be stressful. It's important that we also take time during the weekend to relax. Here's how...

Monday-Friday you get up, get your life together enough to make it to work on time. Work 8-10hrs, go home, do laundry, make food, try to relax, sleep and then wake up the next day and repeat. Now although not every week day looks like this, more of them do than we would like to admit. Monday-Friday or Wednesday-Tuesday, whatever your work week looks like it's so important to make sure you make time to relax. I like to call it a "Slow Saturday." 

A Slow Saturday doesn't mean that you're doing nothing on Saturday, but it does mean that you're being intentional with your Saturday. Here are a few ideas to make sure you're using your weekend to its greatest advantage.

1// Coffee!! Obviously this was going to be first! This can be what you make of it, whatever makes you feel more relaxed. Maybe you get up 10 minutes early and heat up water to make yourself a french press at home, or maybe you get up slightly early and go to your favorite coffee shop to enjoy your people watching for the day. 

2// Pick out your outfit the night before. This has drastically changed my morning during my work week, and it's just as important for my weekend. There is something stressful about having to get up and decide things right away. Set yourself up for success by picking out what you're going to wear and hang it up in the bathroom the night before.

3// Pamper yourself right away. We all have those face creams or face wash products that we love so much that we don't use them every day. (Please say I'm not alone in this!) On Saturday, break those out. Its such a small way to pamper yourself, but put on your favorite makeup for no major reason at all, just because you want to. 

4// Be a tourist in your city. Look up what's happening this weekend, or maybe visit a place you've already been to but love! I can't wait until its spring/summer in Denver. One of my favorite things to do in the summer is visit the Botanical Gardens. The $12-15 is so worth it for me to enjoy a day walking around in all the flowers. (They also have a brick oven pizza they make, yass)

5// Walk instead of Drive. I've lived in very walkable cities and ones that you really can't walk to anywhere in. Either way, drive if you have to to a more walkable area of your city and take a 20 minute walk during golden hour. Drive to the mountains, or the beach, or to your favorite neighborhood and just walk. You'll be amazed how much more creative and rested you'll feel. 

6// Don't let the weather get you down. If it's sunny it's so easy to have a "good day", but when it's gloomy we have a difficult time. Make a conscious effort to remember that this is your Slow Saturday and rain or shine it's going to be a good day!!

7// Plan something for the evening that you know will give you energy. If you're an extrovert maybe you plan a dinner with friends, or maybe if you're getting burt out by people you plan to go to the movies by yourself and take yourself on a date. 

8// Listen to your favorite five songs. A great way to make sure that your Slow Saturday sets you up for the week is to listen to your favorite songs. Let me explain. During those five songs, this is your moment to clean your home, or do the dishes, or separate your clothes for the laundry. During these five songs you can write down a meal prep list for the grocery store, or make your bed. Five songs, on average, is going to be about fifteen minutes. You'll be amazed what you accomplish in that short time. 

9// Give yourself a reward. That reward could be the movie you watched to be by yourself for a moment and relax, but that reward could also be a glass of wine. Make sure you earn the reward, but celebrate your accomplishments of the day. That accomplishment can even be not checking your emails, if you're a person who is constantly attached to their work phone. Its your Slow Saturday, don't check the phone unless you really have to!

Aren't Slow Saturdays the best! I love having the busy Saturday when you're excited and have a plan and are going on a trip, but isn't it also just so lovely to enjoy where you're at and breathe?!

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Life Lately 2018

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Oh 2018 has already been so interesting. I've already been pushed pretty far this year and it's only been two full months. I truly believe this is going to a year of great amounts of growth in my life. I also haven't written 2017 once?! Can you believe that, I think I was just really ready for it to be 2018. 

What I've been learning

  • At Work 

Since January there has been huge amounts of growth of responsiblity at work. I've been focusing on what it means to be a good/fair leader. I want to be a leader that others respect and one that helps them grow and be better at work and in life in general. I've also been trying to define what it looks like to be a responsible leader, and how do you be on top of your game without having to work 12hrs a day, literally! 

  • In Life

I've been focusing more on community and what that means. I wrote a post about a what I do want to focus on this year, generosity. This month I've been diving into what it means to be generous. What it means to be a Proverbs 31 woman, and how that impacts my life and how I interact with people. To be honest, I really haven't read Proverbs 31 too many times because it's always something that is told in church growing up. A girl is told to be a "Proverbs 31 woman". I do firmly believe that, but I also know that so many of the girls I saw with that on their walls were not correctly portraying what that chapter meant. Have you read that chapter of the Bible? That woman is amazing!! She knows what she wants, she is kind, and direct, she has her standards and is doing what she does. Go her!! I do want to be like that. 

  • What's New

My lease is up and I'm in the process of deciding where I should go. It's also hard because I'm not sure if I'm looking for a one bedroom or a two bedroom. I've been so focused on work that I looked up and my lease is already ending next month...oops. I'll have to figure it out soon I guess. 

  • Media

I've been so obsessed with "This is US", all the sadness!! I've also been watching the entire sermon series "Relationship Goals" from Transformation Church. I found it on Youtube. It's such a great representation of what a real conversation about relationships should be. I've also been playing Candy Crush recently, yes I know 2014 is calling, but I feel like it helps my mind escape for a minute and focus on something other than work and spreadsheets and just chill out.

How's your 2018 going? What have you learned this year? How are your goals going?

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Live A Life of Generosity

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Want to have the best year to date?! We all do right? I firmly believe that there is one action that is missing from so many of our lives in general. That, as you can see below, is..

Generosity! 

We definitely don't want to be stingy and known as someone who doesn't have a "giving spirit", but how many of us live a truly generous life? Living a generous life does not mean just being generous with money, although that is part of it. Being someone who lives a generous life means taking the steps to be open when an opportunity arrises. 

To start off your "generous journey" it is a good idea to look at what you spend your money on. No seriously, take inventory in your mind for a moment of what you tend to spend the most of your money on? Write it down, make a note in your phone and keep that in mind throughout the rest of this because it's very true that what we spend out money on is where our heart is.

By that I mean that what we spend the most on is what we value the most. It is similar to the fact that what we really want to accomplish during the week we will. We will make time for things that we think are valuable. We may not be consciously saying that in the moment but, what we feel is best to spend our time on we will. What you take the most seriously is what you will spend your days doing. 

That's a hard reality to let sink in, because so many of us, myself included, spend so much of, not only our money, but our time on things that don't really matter in the end. Things that are more of time wasters than fulfillers. I don't think that's a word, but just stick with me.

We spend time not on building each other up and building a better life for those around us, but we do spend time on so many meaningless things. I say this not to make you, or me, feel bad but to put it back in focus. 

Do you really believe that what you believe is really real? - From The Truth Project

This is my favorite quote because if we truly believed what we believe, it would radically change our lives. We would have to be more generous people because we would realize that life isn't about status. When older people are interviewed and they look back over their lives they never talk about the things that we think are important. 

They don't say, if only I had "x" amount more money I would have really wanted that, or if I had only been the CEO of the company. They talk about quality of life. They talk about wishing they had spent more time with their children, that they wish they had connected with long lost loved ones. They wish they had been more generous with their time and their money. 

I talked about how I don't set New Year's Resolutions, but being more generous than I've ever been is my "goal" for this year. I want to take a more serious look at my goals and keep at the front of my mind what's truly important. Also, If I had to choose one word for this year it would be Generous! 

Do you have a word for this year? How have you been doing on your 2018 resolution? Do you have goals for this month? How are they going? Did you actually write them down?

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7 Things to Remember When Trying to Accomplish Your Goals

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I'm a firm believer in having a plan. In my opinion, if you don't have a plan you're planning to fail. Making goals for yourself is a wonderful way to make sure you keep moving forward. Keeping your goals in mind is what helps you on those days where it's not so easy and it starts to feel like the sky is falling. It's important to keep some aspects in mind when thinking about your goals. Below are a few that I use on a consistent basis when life tries to get me dow. 

1// Remember that if you have a setback, the best timing is sometimes not your timing. I know this sounds super anti what i just said, but it's true. When you're trying so hard and you feel like you're not making any traction remember that many times, the best timing isn't ours. Think back over the goals you have set yourself in the past, did all of those come to fruition in the exact time you wanted them to? If you're answer is yes, more power to you!! I know in my own life setting goals keeps me focused on them, but having the mindset that it is going to take a lot of work and time keeps me motivated.

2// Remember that you have to put your goals in the oven not the microwave. What does that mean? I'll tell ya. Many times with our goals we want to put them in the microwave click thirty seconds and have the result, but it doesn't work like that. When you study very accomplished people, more often than not, they spent years working towards their larger goals before they got to see their goals be a reality. You have to put your goals in the "oven." You start with a plan, work towards that plan checking on it and making sure it isn't burning, adjusting the temperature if necessary and then you get to the finished product. 

3// Honesty time! Many times the reason that we don't accomplish our goals is that we don't put in the work. You have to work towards your goals with an honest mindset. We are all humans, shocker I know!! If you're working towards your goals and you feel like it's taking forever, how serious are you about those goals? Do you wake up and focus on them, or are they in the back of your mind. We all have the same amount of time in the day, we do with it what we feel is important. If you really want to watch that show or cook that meal you find the time to do those things. Are you making time for your goals each day?

4// We need to have a "why not me?" attitude. There are so many wonderful people in the world who are working towards their goals every day. They're getting up and trying to make it happen. Don't sell yourself short. If you have an idea for a project or a product and someone doesn't feel that it's worth it...take a step back, evaluate, and if you still love it, try again! I read that the guy who wanted to make LA LA LAND spent something like 10 years trying to make that movie a reality. He worked so hard at it that eventually someone listened. Same with Hugh Jackman and The Greatest Showman. He spent years trying to get that from a passion project to "the big screen."

5// On that same note, we don't reevaluate. Those in your life that know you very well and have  strong relationship with you should look over your project, in my opinion. Those people can give you a true honest answer, because they know you and love you. Maybe they have an idea that you haven't thought of yet that would take your project to the next level. Maybe they can give you insight that you wouldn't have seen because you're so involved already in the project or goal. 

6// Set steps along the way. If your goals seem too big, break them down into small section. Give yourself something that you can do now. If you want to move to another country you can start with looking into who has done it. What did they do? How does a visa work for that country? Start saving 2% of every paycheck and put it into another account so that you have the money to move all of your things. Do you know anyone who lives in that country? Smaller steps help you move towards the goal without feeling overwhelmed.

7// Lastly, give yourself grace. When we make a goal, sometimes that goal changes and evolves and that's ok. To use the above goal, if you start with wanting to move to another country and eventually you realize that you really love where you live, that's totally ok! You've learned from your goal. You've grown as a person, and then you set another goal. Always keep learning!! It's so good for you as a person and it keeps your mind sharp! 

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Why I Never Make a New Year's Resolution

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At the beginning of last year I did a post called "My Not Goals for 2017" and I still fully believe what I wrote. I personally don't make New Years resolutions. With the way my brain works, as soon as I forget a day of "no gluten January" or "I'll workout every Monday/Wednesday/Friday" then I get discouraged and end up not doing the resolution in its entirety. 

I find that if I have goals based upon the month where I can accomplish the goal at any time during that month I'm much more successful with my goals. It allows me that freedom to do them when I can.

In 2018 there is something I want to do though. I want to be more generous this year than I have ever been before. More generous with my belongings, with my time, and with my talents. Here's why I think you should do that this year too.

I remember a time last year that I was so stressed out. I was working all of the time, I felt like I was bairly sleeping due to the stress, and the sleep I was getting was spent dreaming about work. Yeah I know right! Why is working following me into my sleep?! During that time I had the opportunity to volunteer. Although I felt that I had no time, I for some reason said yes. What I wasn't expecting to happen was those tow-three hours that I spend volunteering with those kids cleared my mind in a way that hadn't happened for months. I wasn't focused on myself, I got out of my head and focused on someone elses needs. 

The next day I went back to work more relaxed than I would have been had I not spend the previous day with those kids. I felt rejuvenated. I will give you a quick warning though... don't volunteer to feel better about yourself, because honestly if that's why you're being generous, you're not really being generous, you're being selfish.

But take a serious step back and rethink your strategy for this year. Remember, in a not morbid way, that you're only on this earth for so long. What do you want to spend your time and money on? I want to spend this next year remembering that "my things" and "my time" really isn't my time at all. What do I really own? If I'm being honest with myself, everything I have is really just rented and is a gift. I want to "regift" in the best way possible. I want to spend my money helping others and lifting them up, I want to spend my time as wisely as possible. I want to be generous. So many people see themselves as a generous person, but how generous are we really being in our day to day lives? 

That's my "not goal" for 2018. I want to live this year as generous as I can be. It will be hard to start because I'm so use to thinking "my things" are my own, but I'll get there! One step at a time.

Who's with me?! 

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Be Kind To Yourself Now

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I was recently looking back at old photos and videos of myself and I was so much more kind to my past self. I was noticing how my hair looked better than I thought it did at the time, and how the same photos I had disliked, I now was so grateful that I had. This photo is me trying my very first homemade pop tart. I was on the trip that helped me decide Denver was the right place to move to. It was the first time I had looked at a place other than Florida and thought that it could eventually be home. However, after taking this picture, I hated everything about the picture.  

We do that so often in life. We look at all of the things in life that we "should" be doing better at and we don't appreciate the season of life that we're in. Growing and maturing is so necessary, but at the same time being grateful for where you are at brings such a peace. It's having the faith to know that this isn't forever, but also to be grateful for the now. Give yourself some grace in the now. I know when I'm looking at a picture of myself that I just took, I notice how if I had only worn a different color shirt, or mascara, or smiled like this instead, or whatever it may be at the time that I'm insecure about, the picture would have been so much better. In those moments all I'm doing is tearing myself down. I'm not speaking kindly to myself. How is it that I can be so kind to others in pictures and always love the candids, yet when I see my own all I see are my imperfections?

Let's not wait until years down the road to appreciate the "now." Let's not wait until we're looking back over memories and we finally see how we actually looked vs. what our minds were trying to tell us we looked like. Realize the beauty you have now, no matter your weight or haircut. You are so blessed to be you. You're the only one who will ever be like you. We see so much beauty in others, don't forget to be kind to yourself too!

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Why Asking "Why" Is So Important

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I was in a meeting recently and the person leading the meeting kept asking "why." He asked us why we do what we do. This is a question that in society we tend for forget about. He was trying to make a point that in life there are so many times that we don't allow ourselves to figure out why we choose something or why we are doing something. We focus on how to do things or the best way to do something, or how to cut costs to do it, but do we ask why? Not nearly as much as we should. 

Even though people don't always think about why they are doing something, if you ask people "why" you can eventually get to the core of why they are really motivated. It will take a few times of asking why to get to the core of the reason, but it's important to do this. If we don't understand why we are motivated, it's easy to lose momentum when things start getting hard. 

For example: 

As a society we tend to focus on the what and where vs. the why and how. We focus on the immediate what do I need to do at work, and weeks start to slip away. We're focusing too much on the immediate and not on how the immediate is effecting the future and eternity. 

What you are doing today will form how your future is. It doesn't define your future, in that you can change and refocus on what you need to, but it's important to keep at the forefront of your mind the "how" and "why" of your decisions. 

The What: The what of life is what you're doing right now, you are working or going to school. You are getting groceries etc. It's factual. 

The Where: It's where you're at the time. The where can be important in that if you don't feel like this is where you need to be and you've been feeling lead to go to another place, maybe you should start seriously thinking about your where. On the other hand, don't let your where stop you from doing what you want to do. You may not have to be in a certain location to start making steps towards what you want. Location can be important but it isn't everything. 

The How: The how is the constant planning phase. The more you can get ahead of something the more proactive you can be and the less reactive. The more you can sit down and spend time thinking through how you're going to accomplish your goals or plan your trip the less you will be stressed once you are there. The more you can think of different ways to do something the more options you'll have to succeed. 

The WHY: The why, to me, is the more important question. It's time to let the two year old in you out. Ask why? Put yourself in the hot seat and go down to the core of why you do the things you do. It's so easy to stop asking why and start going without realizing. Your reasoning why is what truly motivates you. In the hard times of your career, job, school, moving, traveling, it's your reasons and convictions that keep you moving forward.

The WHY needs to be at the core of your mind when you have a bad day, because it's fact that bad days are going to happen. You're going to have setbacks during your time trying to make progress. If you're trying to open a store, you'll have times when the loan won't go through, or the pipes will burst, but the why is what keeps you going. If your why is to make money to support your family and give back to the community, keep that in mind when your shipment gets pushed back and now you have to figure out another way to get your product. 

Now it's your turn, ask yourself 

Why do you do what you do? 

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