Give Yourself Resources

What are you spending your time on? What resources could you be keeping from yourself because of unnecessary mental thoughts.

My personality is one that when I see a forest I see all of the trees as a larger picture. I don't focus as much on each individual tree, but I see how they work together. There are also personalities that are very detail oriented. They look at a forest and see the trees individually. They see how each tree is unique. I love seeing how all of the trees work together to form the forest. 

On the flip side of my personality, there are also times when I had the capability to get so focused on what one tree is doing that I miss the beauty of the other trees. I'm not focused on the resources all of the other trees have, because I'm paying attention to the one tree. 

Let's bring that analogy into the day to day. In life there are moments when there is going to be one tree doing very well, or one tree really struggling. At work there are going to be times where one coworker or employee needs more attention than the others. There are going to be times when one friend is having an amazing week, and it’s important to be there to celebrate with that friend. How do you make sure that you are not letting all of your other work fall by the wayside while you’re taking time on one aspect of your life. What are some real ways you can balance work and life?

Let’s start by asking some questions.

WHAT DO YOU SPEND YOUR TIME ON?

Time is a resources that no matter how hard we try we can’t get back. As humans we treat what we value as important very simply by what we spend our time on. If you take a real look throughout your week, what you're spending the majority of your time on is what you truly value. Since time is a resources that you can't get back, so what are you spending your time on?

WHAT IS YOUR “WHY”?

We have such an amazing way to rationalize our “why” without even realizing it. Let’s take a moment and step out of whatever whirlwind is happening and think about the why. Why are you not farther along in your school project? Why are you not farther along in your career? Why haven't you taken steps to move towards your dream job? There are going to be some answers to that why that are our of your control, and that’s completely valid! I’m not talking here about those reasons. I’m talking about the reasons that we control.

Are you not further along in your career because you’re still learning your current role to the best of your ability, or are you not further along in your career because you’re not stretching yourself with new projects that show your abilities?

REALIZE THERE IS A SEASON FOR EVERYTHING!

Now that you know what you’re spending your time on, and why you’re spending it there, let’s realize something else. I firmly believe there is a time for everything, and there are real reasons why things may not be happening right now. You could be making a sacrifice for your family which is the reason behind why your degree isn't complete yet. That is a very valid reason! But there are also moments when the reason why haven't finished that project is because we're nervous about what that means. What happens if I try for that job and fail? What happens if I step out on a limb and talk to that person, they could reject me. And in the most loving way I say to that "so what?"

One lesson I learned from my Grandfather who I love, but never had the opportunity to meet is this, take your dreams seriously. He wanted to be a lawyer. He took all of the classes and passed, the only test he had left was the bar exam and he would have been a lawyer, but he was afraid of what would happen if he failed that test, so he never took it. That hurts my soul. He was so smart and fully capable of passing that test, but he was afraid of what would happen if he failed, and probably also afraid of what would happen if he passed. He never even fully joined the game, he just kept practicing.

STOP PLAYING THE "WHAT IF" GAME

It’s important to know your “why”, but it’s useless to play the “what if” game. The reason “what if” is more often than not a useless game to play is because there isn’t a way to find the answer other than trying. IF that person doesn't want to talk to you in the coffee shop, that's fine, at least you tried! You could also have a wonderful conversation with that person. You don’t know unless you try. IF you start looking for a home to buy and you realize that your'e not ready for that yet because your'e not sure if you want to put down roots, that's fine! Now you know. You're taking steps to learn about yourself, that's a win! 

GIVE YOURSELF RESOURCES

Give yourself resources, don't wait for someone to hand them to you! Why is that? Because in life there are seasons when you have mentors who are there to guide and support, but there are also times in life when you need to figure it out! 

Working through things via books, and podcasts, and youtube videos are all as equally valuable depending on the season you’re in. You’re learning about yourself, and still growing in that knowledge. No one is perfect, but when you take a moment and step back and think....

...is there a area of your life that you're waiting to start or finish either because of fear or a lack of resources? Is there something you feel drawn to do, but have been to afraid to pursue? 

TAKE A STEP

If you're wanting to make either your or someone else's life better, why not just try! If you move and you hate it, you can always move back! If you try an intro class at school and realize that's not for you, you expanded your knowledge on a new subject and you can now try another subject of interest. 

TAKE A MOMENT TO REFLECT

It's ok to fail, it's not ok to do nothing. My pastor growing up used to say "If nothing changes, nothing changes"

Have you taken any steps recently to give yourself resources? Have you started reading into the subject you’re interested in? Have you tried to find a mentor or reached out to anyone already in that field? Have to taken a real look into your life and found your “why”?

CLICK HERE TO DOWN SOME QUESTIONS YOU CAN REFLECT ON!

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September Goals (10 in 30)

September Goals - AVintageJoy

Ya'll, the fall vibes are here and I can finally set them free! It's time to pull out the pumpkins and sweaters, and spices for our coffee! I'm so ready. I truly love summer, and I will be sad to see it go, but I'm ready for the cozy to return!

1// FIND PORTCH FURNITURE

Since it will be getting cold soon, I'm hoping that the porch furniture will go on sale and I can snag some good times for cheap!

2// TAKE A DAY TO GO OUT AND TAKE PICTURES

I really do love photography, like so many of us do. But I feel nervous going out in public with my camera, which makes no sense because so many do it already, but it's something I want to get over. I want to take a day and drive to locations specifically for photography!

3// ESCAPE FOR THE WEEKEND

I've been wanting to go to either Portland or Seattle with one of my friends and I want it to be this month! Even a small weekend trip to explore sounds wonderful! 

4// ORGANIZE MY BOOKSHELF

I got one from Ikea specifically because I can add some contact paper to it and have it look like what I want! Or maybe use wood pieces and drill those to the shelves for some dimension, not sure yet! I just need to actually take the time to do that.

5// CONTINUE TO GIVE MYSELF RESOURCES

I'm going to talk more in-depth about this in a later post, but in August I realized I was falling into an incorrect mindset. I want to keep on the path I'm on now!

6// TIGHTEN UP MY BUDGET

 I remember back in school, when I would feel so expensive when I bought actual brands as opposed to the store brand! I kind of miss that Joy, she really knew how to save and budget. Since having a "real job" I've gotten more loose with my money. I want to get a little closer to that Joy excited about the real brands and save that difference for my future! Take myself more seriously! If nothing changes, nothing changes. 

7// FOCUS ON THE RIGHT QUESTIONS

 When something happens at work or in my personal life, I want to make sure I'm focusing on the real issue. The other day I had someone angry with me at work, but I knew that they were going through something in their life that was the real cause of their frustration. Focusing on the real problem helped me to stay calm and work through what was happening. Sometimes when someone is frustrated it has nothing to do with that particular situation. It's hard in those emotionally charged moments, but I want to make sure I'm focusing on what is really happening in others lives and in my own life.

8// COZY UP MY HOME FOR FALL

It's that time of year and I'm ready! time for the pumpkin everything! If you don't like pumpkin and fall things, I'm sorry! but also, not sorry! I'm Demi Lovato in fall form. (If you haven't heard that song, just ignore me)

9// CHANGE THE OIL IN MY CAR

It's that time again. Exciting goal I know! Try to contain yourself with excitement for me.

10// SEE THE ASPENS

Around this time of year the Aspen trees in the mountains start to turn a golden color and it looks beautiful! They've started a little early this year so some of them have already changed. I want to see them :)

What are your goals for this first Fall Month?

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August Goals (10 in 30)

Wildflowers - AVintageJoy

Happy Summer ya'll. Summer is in full swing over here in Colorado, and it's hot! Everyone keeps telling me this is unusually hot, but for me it just feels normal but without the humidity, and that I'm definitely ok with. It's also my Birthday Month! Which isn't as exciting as it was when I was a kid, but I'm trying to be more excited about it. So let's put some goals up shall we!

1// BE CONSISTENT WITH MY MOOD TRACKING.

 I've really enjoyed doing this in July and I feel that it helps me to look back each day and take a moment to think about my mindset throughout the day. It also gives me an excuse to use my bullet journal, which I'm always down with!

2// STICK TO MY BUDGET.

 I'm focusing more and more on my longterm goals, and in order to focus on one I need to make sure my budget is tight and locked in! I'm pretty good with not overspending, but I'm not saving as much as I would like.

3// READ ONE BOOK.

I think I want it to be "Girl, Wash Your Face" because I've heard so any great things about that book! I also just got "Jesus, CEO" in the mail so it may be that one instead. And I have a few audio books...I'm just excited about reading again! 

4// TWO MORE HIKES

I went on a few hikes in July, and I want to keep that up! Plus it allows me to be outdoors which is always a wonderful reason to hike, not that you hike indoors. You know what I mean though.

5// FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE

 This is going to be a huge goal on mine this month. There are days, like yesterday, that I work 12+ hrs and that can be tiring, but it's also worth it! I want to make sure I'm setting the right example and coming to work with a positive attitude! 

6// UPDATE SOMETHING IN MY HOME

I have thought of so many projects that I want to do! Unfortunately, I've reached that part of living in a place when you're like "well, this works for now." But I rebuke that phase!! I want to keep doing small and big updates that make my home even cozier and more me. Home is suppose to be a place that is very "sanctuary like", you know without all of the quasimodo references, but with the HGTV "I just love how my home is a reflection of me" feel.

7// GIVE MYSELF MORE RESOURCES

 This I kind of touched on in goal 3, but I really want to give myself more resources for my job and my future. I do really feel called to do more than I'm doing, but I need some tips, tricks, and ideas of how to get there. The internet is such a huge place I know there are great resources out there for me!

8// HAVE SOMEONE COME LOOK AT MY HEATER

t's summer so everything is hot, so it's not a big deal now, but in a few months it will be! My heater in my home hasn't been working for a few months now. I really need to have someone come look at it!

9// CONSISTENTLY POST ON INSTAGRAM

 I really love that platform, I love seeing all of the creativity it produces and it's so inspiring to see beautiful locations. I really need to get better at using it! I tend to scroll for an hour, but I never post anything. This month my goal is to post every other day! Consistency is key!

10// ENJOY MY BIRTHDAY

 I'm not a huge birthday person the older I've gotten, but why is that? I feel like as adults we skip some of those WOW moments we had as kids; we forget how precious every day is. I really want to get back to that childlike wonder and times, and enjoy the day for what it is! Not oversized either, but just a day to relax and recharge. :)

What are your goals this month?

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A Week of Self-Care

Weeks fly by so fast! What are you doing this week to improve your self-care and your life? Here are some real steps you can take to move you forward!

Weeks have this way of going by so fast that we don't really remember too many details of each of them. If there is something substantial that happens we may remember, but it's important to do our best to not let the weeks slip by, because those weeks become months, and then we look back and we haven't really remembered most of the year!

This week if you're up for the challenge I want you to walk through the week with new eyes, consciously trying to remember details of the week. Taking a step back and moving one day at a time. Self-Care is such an important part of being consciously in the week. 

Bonus Self-Care: Let's also add another step in the mix and track your mood throughout the week. I really like doing this because it gives me a small moment each day to look back and see how I acted each day. Was I grateful today, did I let the stresses of life get to me too much, was I just neutral today, or was I truly happy today? 

Let's take a week together to have a self care week:

Sunday

I want to start with Sunday because I feel so many of us feel that the week starts with Monday, but it's important to prepare before going into work. And if you have a work schedule where Monday isn't your "Monday" then shift this to be whatever your second day in the week off is! 

On Sunday do something that replenished your energy (see this post for some detailed tips). Do something that makes you feel rested. For some that could be hanging out with friends or family, and for some it could be an escape to the mountains or beach. The goal of this day is to help your mind be prepared for the week. Also, eat well. Do two days of meal prep for either lunches or dinners, this way during the first section of your week you don't have to even think about what you're going to eat for dinner, you already have planned ahead and know you're set up for success. 

Monday

Get up early and get to work ten minutes early. Use those ten minutes to your advantage. If you work in a highly computer based job, use those ten minutes to do the first scan of your schedule for the day and print it off. I've found that so helpful to not jump directly into emails but make sure my mind knows where I need to be throughout the day. If you need to change into a uniform, use that time to relax into your shift as opposed to rushing and already feeling stressed even before you start.

When you get home, eat your dinner you've preplanned without looking at your phone. Have you ever gotten that app that shows you how many times you unlock your phone in a day? It's a scary app to get my friend! 

Take your time eating and enjoy your food. Read a book, or watch TV without also searching online. I can promise you you'll find new lines from your favorite show that you didn't remember. 

Tuesday

What are your plans for the weekend coming up? Start planning now so that you have something to look forward to throughout the week. Your mind is most excited when you have two future plans or trips planned. this way when you're doing one you also know you have another coming up. For me: This month I have three different friends coming to visit, so after one leaves I still know there are exciting trips ahead and more adventures to come! 

By this time your meal prep is getting low. Take tonight and cook something, while taking on the phone figuring out what you're up to this weekend. I'be been obsessed with street tacos recently!! You really can never go wrong with a good street taco recipe!! 

Wednesday

Do a mask before bed. It does not matter if you're male or female, a good mask before bed really does make a difference for your skin. You've made it half way though the work week and you should celebrate that! Also, doing something small that makes you feel pampered will make you feel like you're taking care of yourself. 

Set a timer for twenty minutes and clean your home. Put on your favorite Pandora station and clean up. If your home is organized your stress levels will also stay lower, trust me on this, I've tried it both ways. Having your home as your escape and haven from the world is so important. Plus if you've been given the blessing to be able to afford a roof over your head, no matter how many square feet, it's important to be a good stuard of it. 

Thursday (it's not Friday but you're so close!)

Go grocery shopping after work. "Why would I do that Joy, that's what the weekend is for?" 

I'm glad you asked! Who loves to fight the crowds on Saturday morning or who wants to grocery shop on Sunday afternoon? No-one, that's who. Get the chore done today so that your weekend is truly a weekend. By this time in the week, your home is clean, and once your fridge is restocked all you have to do this weekend is the fun things you want to as opposed to what chores you "have" to do!

Friday!

You did it!! I'm so proud of you. It's the last day of work before relaxing/ doing your side hustle. The world is your oyster. If you love every second of your job or you can't wait for 5pm every Friday, it's important to take a weekend. You'll actually be more productive at work throughout the week if you give your mind this time to think of something besides work.

Go out after work with friends and get a drink, or go out for ice cream at night. Something that puts your mind at ease and allows you to laugh!! Laughter is so important to mental health, and as adults we don't do it nearly as much as we should. Do a game night, or go to a throwback night at the bar. Something where you're laughing and hanging with people who you enjoy.

Saturday 

The world is your oyster my friend. You've cleaned and done grocery shopping. You probably have some laundry to do, but that's about it. 

Get yourself a cup of coffee at your favorite coffee shop and relax! See a movie, host a movie night, eat some good food, and see the sun! 

So, how did you do? Did you make it through the entire week or did you pick the days you need help with the most? Either way if you've even made one step in the "self-care" direction, this post was worth it! 

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July Goals (10 in 30)

July Goals! Here are my 10 goals in 30 days. Let's get started!!

We're officially in the second half of 2018! It's summertime! The time where we all want to protect our skin with sunscreen, but also want to get a summer glow, but also know too much sun is not good for us: it's very difficult to decide! This is such a wonderful month to explore outside in either your own town or go venture to a new place! Let's set up some goals shall we!

1// Come up with a nightly routine for my skin! I need to be better about taking care of my skin and making sure it's hydrated during the night! I have a couple of really great resources on this, I just need to keep doing what I started at the end of last month.

2// Learn more about what it would take to do the TSA Pre-Check. I've been so fascinated by this, and really want to find out what it would take to do that, and save myself so much time!

3// Plan a trip to go back home! I really want to visit Florida and I miss my friends/family/the parks! Not that I necessarily want to visit during the hottest month, but if I look now for flights, I'm sure I can find something.

4// Find and purchase a bath tray! I'm always so obsessed with them in theory, but in reality I've never even used one. I do love the idea that my book won't get wet, and theres a place to hold my tea or wine :)

5// Buy a friend a present "just because" and mail it to them! We only really buy eachother things when it's a birthday or a holiday? Why! I like them all year, why not show it all year! 

6// Go to the Renaissance Festival!! I'm so excited that it's back!! I went last year, you can read about that here, and loved it!! This year I'm going with someone I think will also really enjoy it! I can't wait!

7// Update old posts. I've been wanting to do this for awhile now. I want to make sure all my links work, and update pictures on some old posts that I still love. I also need to streamline my categories I've put on past posts to make sure they all make sense. 

Anyone remember the old days that we would tag everything, uhh! lol

8// Find at least two really good tank tops that I can wear all summer! I have such a hard time finding tank tops. Either they're too low under my arms or it's too tight. Whenever I find a tank top that works with my body type, I wear it until it dies! I need more that fit well.

9// Try to get a much better grip on Tailwind. I started a free trial, but I'm honestly going to dive into all of the tutorials I can find. I would really love to learn more about the behind the scenes of my Pinterest account.

10// Put shelves up in my bathroom! I know the kind I want, of course DIY, and I'm getting a drill tomorrow, so I just need to put it all into action!

What are your goals this month? What are you most looking forward to? Also, do protect your skin and wear sunscreen, and lip balm with SPF, and drink the correct amount of water each day! Ok, I'm off my soapbox now! 

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How do you Recharge? Let Me Explain

On a particularly stressful week or day. What can you do to make sure you're recharging your own batteries? Here's a few tips and tricks - AVintageJoy

I recently wrote a post about the most important aspects of life that I've learned since I was 20! If you haven't read that post, take a second and go read that and come back. It will help you understand this post on a deeper level. Learning to be an adult is a weird transition filled with expectations of what should and shouldn't be happening. 

One of the lessons I've learning though that I didn't really mention in that post, because I felt like I needed to expand upon so much so that I feel it deserves its own post. That topic is: Recharging your own personal battery.

During a stressful season or week have you learned how to recharge yourself in a healthy and productive way? If you have, I'm so proud of you!! Great Job!! If it's something that you're still working through or struggling with, this post is mainly for you!

One of the way I used to work through a particularly stressful week was to "pushing through" or "just getting through it", and sometimes that can be a strength, but sometimes is not the best option to tap into. What are other ways you can work through a particularly busy season of life? 

Part of living a balanced life is realizing the days or weeks where you're super unbalanced. How do you take steps in the right direction? "Let's talk about that" (said in my best Dr. Phill voice)

Discovery Phase

Let's take some time to learn about the "how" of recharging, this is so different for everyone it's important to learn for yourself how you recharge.

1// The first step is to look at your day to day behavior and start to consciously think about what makes you smile? Don't write down anything just yet, just put that thought in your brain so that you start to realize what makes your smile throughout the day. What do you feel that brings energy or life back into your day? Is it when you complete a task, or you know a fun event is coming up in the week?

For the sake of an example, let's just use me. Below are two ways that I noticed I got energy from. 

  • I find energy in the moments when I'm around people I don't have to be "on" with. People that I can just be myself with. 
  • I also find energy when I know there are two exciting things coming up. It could be as simple as I know I'm getting coffee tomorrow morning before work, or I know I'll be off this Sunday so I can go to Church.

2// The second step is to look at yourself in real eyes and think: Am I an introvert or an extrovert?

Do I truly enjoy being around people, or give the choice would I rather go to a bookstore by myself and read? Also, by being an introvert it doesn't mean that you don't like people, or by being an extrovert it doesn't mean that you can stand being by yourself, but we're all somewhere on the spectrum. Where do you stand?

3// Take an entire week to and step back, jot down things throughout your day that make you smile. This is closely related to the first step, but it is a small action your taking to work towards making yourself recharged! This isn't what you feel makes your happy, but real time/ in the moment things that make you smile.

To keep going with our example:

Some of mine were:

  • Waking up when my body wakes up, not making myself sleep in longer or wake up earlier
  • When theres a fridge full of real food
  • Knowing my house is clean
  • A really good cup of coffee
  • The smell of a really wonderful candle burning
  • Taking the time to listen to worship music/spend time with God
  • Watching about an hour or under of TV (any longer than that and I started to feel guilty)
  • Doing small exercises before bed

Action Phase 

Now that you've discovered some small ways that you, consciously or maybe unconsciously, recharge yourself or your day, it's time to act on those! 

4// How can you organize your day to still get all you need to accomplish done, but also include some items from your list? Do you need to wake up 10 minutes earlier to make your really good cup of coffee that starts your day in the right direction? Do you need to spend twenty minutes before bed to clean your house so that when you wake up you feel calm?

Bonus Tip: I've found that, although I feel like my mom talking to my phone, I really love having Siri set a 20 minute timer and cleaning my house at night. 20 minutes doesn't feel overwhelming in the amount of time, and it's crazy how many things you can clean when you have 20 minutes! 

5// Intentionally take 10 minutes each day to pamper yourself. I know that sounds like a given, but in a world where we're always moving and theres always another meeting to get to, it's hard to carve out time to intentionally do something nice for ourselves. I tend to do mine before bed, or before I go out. This is a universal guide because it doesn't matter if you're an extrovert or introvert, if you're not taking care of your body, you won't feel as recharged as you could throughout the day. 

Some ideas to pamper yourself can include:

  • Make a smoothie in the morning so that you eat before leaving the house
  • Put lotion on before going to bed so that your body doesn't dry out at night
  • Learn a better/ more effective way to put your makeup on that saves you both time and you still look great!
  • Wear your favorite neckless no matter what day of the week it is!
  • Set an appointment to see your doctor to do a routine checkup. 

A very small way I did this recently was to paint my nails. That sounds so small, but every time I picked something up, having that little sparkle was a reminder that I'm taking care of myself too. When is the last time that you put the tips you watch into action? When is the last time you put on an at home face mask, or did a moisturizing hair treatment?

Bonus Tip:

Do something that gets you "out of your box" as one of my friends says. Do something for someone else that has nothing to do with you, or your own goals. Buy someones coffee behind you in line for no reason, give a tip to the person who rings up your items at the grocery store, bring flowers to a friend, etc. Although these seem so small, they will make such a wonderful impact of your day and theirs. And you're helping someone else recharge their day in a very small way! 

Now go out there and take some real steps to live a more balanced life! Recharge yourself when you're feeling low, don't let your battery run out! You're the one responsible for knowing when you're getting low! You've got this! Take a breather we're all working through it. 

 

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The Most Important Lessons I've learned Since I was 20!

Life lessons come in stages, here are the one I've learned since I was 20 that I've found most helpful!!

There are so many birthday posts about "Things I've learned in 20-something years". I am obsessed with those posts!! Recently, however, I've started thinking about things that I haven't learned from my entire time on earth, but what are things that I've learned in the past years between "YAY I'm 20!" and "I can't believe I'm almost 30!"

Not all of these are finalized, close the chapter, and turn the page, but they are lessons that I didn't start to learn until after I was 20. If you are in your 20s, or pre-20s, or post 20s we all have stages of life that we learn lessons in. I hope these help you start to learn these lessons, or solidify that "yes these are important lessons for me to learn."

1// While in College any scholarship money that you can get is so helpful!! I remember both sides of this coin. I remember spending hours looking for scholarships to get none of them, and feeling like I was wasting my time. I also remember seeing a scholarship at my school that I was pretty sure I qualified for, but I wasn't sure if I wanted to apply for! I'm so glad that I decided to apply because I did get that scholarship. If I hadn't applied I would have left about $3,000 on the table! Crazy! College is basically the only time in your life that people are like "You're young and want to learn, here's some free money to help because we know you're struggling." I wish there were more things like that after college like, "We see that you're paying for rent all by yourself and you want to travel, here is some money!" 

Paris - AVintageJoy

2// Trends in clothing change so much, purchase quality items as opposed to the ones that are cool right now. This is both about clothes and furniture. Remember when shirts that were high in the front and really long in the back were a thing?! Where are they all now! On the other hand, my combat boots that I found and love I still wear years and years later.

3// Travel during your summers in College! On a similar note to number one, there are not as many times in life after college that you get as long of a break as summer break in college is. Yes, I worked during the summer in college, but it's so much easier to say "I'm working a part time job, I can take 3 weeks off to go explore." as opposed to "I have a staff of 30, I would like to go travel for three weeks."

-Subnote: Have some of those trips be road trips in there with friends. It will be worth it! Trust me, and so much cheeper, because you're also still in college and have to check on finances so carefully.

4// Status/a title will not make you happy! We all fall into moments where we think "If only I had ____ I would be happy." But it really doesn't. Things and status will not bring fulfillment to your life, only God can do that. Trying to fill your life with things other than Jesus in the hopes of feeling fulfilled will just not work! That's one of the reasons why, when you do get that promotion or that item, the excitement of that fades and then you're looking for something else to feel fulfilled in a few days or weeks. Their beauty will always fade. I first hand know about this. For a few years I felt like I was chasing the "white rabbit" of being a manager, but once I got it I realized that it, just like everything else in life other than Jesus, does not fulfill!

5// The unique aspects of you that maybe you were made fun of as a kid, are the aspects of your personality that set you apart from others. On a physical/looks level one thing that I use to get made fun of as a kid that I felt hopeless about was my eyebrows. Back in my day (sarcasm on purpose), small skinny eyebrows were "in", I never had eyebrows like that. But now, being an adult and not having plucked to death my eyebrows, they are something that I get comments on. It's part of my face and something that I actually really like. Your beauty marks can lead to a career like Cindy Crawford. It's a big sentence to say but, be learn to be comfortable in your own skin. It's always something to keep learning but, just because one person looks at you funny, it doesn't matter!

6// Learn to share! This is a little more of a humorous lesson I've learned, but there are so many times that I use to go out to eat with friends that I would purchase all of this food and then leave half of it uneaten. Learn to share your fries with your friends. You'll save money and waste less. Also, make sure if you're going to get a medium or a large that you're hungry enough to eat/drink it! I was notoriously bad for getting the wrong size drink and wasting half of it. Not any more, I like to spend my money where it counts!! 

london subway - AVintageJoy

7// The world is so much bigger than you realize! No matter how "cultured" you are, the world is so much bigger than you can imagine! The more you travel and get to know people the more you realize how little you really know. Never stop learning and helping others. I pray that we do not get so comfortable in our little worlds that we have the naivety to think that everyone is as blessed as we are! Helping others is really the main message behind this lesson. 

8// Comparison is a thief of Joy. Get inspiration from people of course, learn from them, get inspired by what they're doing, but don't compare where they're at in life to where you're at. You are a different person, with different lessons to learn. Comparing and feeling behind will only lead you to feeling unsettled, not motivated.

9// Don't have a fear of investing in friendships or being yourself in a group of people. I'm definitely an extrovert, but there are times that in a large group of people where the girls are all talking about makeup or all playing with each other's hair, that I don't know what to do! I have a fear of talking about how I love the Star Wars movies because maybe the girls won't like me. But WHO CARES!! I'm looking for friends who appreciate who I am and I appreciate them for who they are. You don't have to love everything your friends do, but you do have to respect each other. And how can they respect that you really love this nerdy aspect of something if you never give them the chance to. Be your weird self! (they're nerdy about something too!)

College - AVintageJoy

10. It's ok to be Mulan. Let me explain!...When I grew up I always wanted to Belle and I still love Belle, but I'm much more of a Mulan in real life. I have goal after goal of reading books, and part of me is an introvert, but I'm much more likely to push boundaries of what a female "can and should" do. I feel you, don't message me about how powerful a woman Belle is, I know! That's why I love her too. But the "I'm just going to do this to fight for my family and so that my loved ones don't have to worry about this." Is much more my personality! I say that all to say, learn to see yourself in true eyes! Learn what your blindspots are and what your strengths are. We all have them, it's ok.

11. What God thinks of me is more important than what anyone else thinks. On that same note, if I truly want to fill fulfilled, I have to be following my God given calling, not worrying about what anyone else thinks. This one is the hardest for me to write, because I'll be working on this for years, and this is the one sometimes I feel the most out of line with. But, I remember the times in my 20's that I felt most alive, it was when I was more focused on what He thinks about me than worrying about what others think. 

This wonderful picture to the right is me from college, having a wonderful time learning how to solder. Yes, it's not the best picture, but I really love it because I was having so much fun! You can also definitely tell that a bunch of guys lived in this house from all of the lovely background accoutrements. 

There's one more lesson I've learned more about this year than ever before. But I feel like that one is a more detailed posts. So I'm going to write another post about that lesson. Read it here!

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